"I love this girl but her mum says she's too young for me"

I tried looking for someone to replace her but none has been able to meet up to my standards

A very sad man

Hi Bukky,

I'm a 35-yr-old M.sc holder but yet to get a job. I fell in-love with an 18-yr-old girl and told her my intentions. She replied me, saying I should go speak to her dad.

I spoke to her mum instead because I'm scared of her father but her mum told me she's too young for me.

The girl is very smart, natural and God-fearing. I tried looking for someone to replace her but none has been able to meet up to my standards.

Her mother tells her to look for a rich man and my heart keeps bleeding because my future is bright. I want a simple lady as my future wife now that I'm nobody.

My PhD will take me 3 years and she just gained admission to read 4-yr course. What do I do?

Worried Ola.


Hi Worried Ola,

Thanks for sharing your concerns with me.

The age difference between 35 and 18 is quite wide but as they say 'age is just a number' and you can't choose whom to fall in-love with but when parents are involved, certain factors are considered and age is one of them.

Going to her parents was a bold move on your part, which showed you had genuine intentions towards the girl you are in love with.

Being an Msc holder is a good thing, but an Msc holder without a good paying job isn't much of a potential suitor for a girl whom you say her mother advises to go for rich men.

You may like her but every parent wants a man who can take good care of their child, provide security too and sometimes love isn't just enough.

If you want her as your future wife, work towards convincing her parents, which means you have to get a job first, save and have better plans for your life. You may be surprised on the outcome of your hardwork and dedication.

I wish you all the best.


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