"I don't know how to approach a lady"

I find it very difficult to approach a lady at first sight


Hello Bukky,

I'm Yemi from Ado Ekiti. I find it very difficult to approach a lady at first sight. Luckily I do get their numbers later on. The difficult part is talking to them on the phone and making friends. They listen to me for a while, then end the call instead of listening to me.

I get ashamed when this happens.

Please advice me, how can I make things easier?

Yemi from Ado Ekiti.


Hi Yemi,

I appreciate you sharing your concerns with me.

It takes a bold man to approach a woman he likes. But truth be told, women appreciate men who are bold and can start a conversation that'll flow freely.

Calling a lady on the phone without meeting her before and asking to be friends at the first instance may seem to her like you're being a stalker. You can't blame them for ending such calls because she simply can't put a face to the person calling her.

You have to learn how to approach a lady you like, the reason you can't is because you get scared before making a move. If you have close female friends, practice by talking to them.  Coming off as a gentleman means a lot, that includes not acting like a creep, grooming yourself inwardly and outwardly.

Instead of collecting their numbers from another source, why don't you apporach them and make them give you their numbers themselves. You may get turned down sometimes, but the more you try to learn how to talk to a lady nicely, the easier it'll be for you.

I wish you all the best.


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