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Relationship Talk "I can't have sex beyond one round with my wife; please help"

I really would love to at least go for a second round with my wife one of these days.

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Dear Bukky,

I have this question that I would like you to help me find answer to.

The problem is that after ejaculating once when having sex with my wife, I find it difficult becoming hard again.

So sometimes when I hear men talking about going for a second round or third it sounds like mirage to me.

Do you have any assistance you can render with your experience?

I really would love to at least go for a second round with my wife one of these days.

Thanks in advance.

Hello, reader

The first thing I could think of is age.

It has been biologically proven that men from 45 years of age and above often experience diminished sexual performances. So if you fall within this age range, this could be an explanation for what you are currently going through.

Another thing is the issue of your nutrition and personal hygiene. Do you eat healthy, work out, exercise?

Taking fruits, vegetables and other healthy foods and practices might help, too.

During sex, you should try to relax, as nerves and anxiety could be playing a part.

You could concentrate on making that one time count. I think this is one thing you should really consider working on.

If you play out that one time, and hold back that ejaculation long enough to make your wife achieve multiple orgasms - and the Big O - before you, it might not be that important to go the second time as both of you will be deeply satisfied already.

Finally, I strongly advise against the use of drugs and substances except prescribed by a qualified doctor. And you really should see one, because they could have informed, expert opinions and solutions on this.

Good luck!

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