Everyone develops a soft spot when they hear stories of people who have suffered abuse at the hands of their partners.
Here's why you hurt others when you lie about being abused
Most victims of domestic abuse are usually scared of speaking up because they feel people won't believe them if they come forward
Most victims of domestic abuse are usually scared of speaking up because they feel people won't believe them if they come forward.
This is partly owing to the fact that some people have fabricated lies about being 'abused' just for cheap publicity and pity.
Eden Strong of YourTango writes more on why fake abuse victims hurt the real ones:
Before I get started, let me make one thing clear: Society has failed its abuse victims.
It's failed them by shaming them into silence, by not believing them when they come forward, and by hushing the topic so much that real victims are afraid to come forward.
We have a long way to go before most victims are able to speak up — and an even longer way to go until many people are ready to hear them.
But some abuse "victims" need to shut up.
Some of you haven't been abused, yet claim you were. And I'm tired of the word "abused" being thrown around as a plea for pity.
Abuse isn't when someone breaks up with you and you want to soothe your hurt feelings with the label of being abused.
Abuse isn't when you're trying to win a custody battle.
Abuse isn't when you file for divorce and try to shove your ex out of the house with a restraining order.
Abuse claims aren't a revenge tactic to be used on an ex you don't like.
Abuse is so much more than many of you will ever understand, and as a victim and someone who now works with victims, you're offending us.
Stop claiming a battle you've never fought and stop trying to win a war using tactics you know nothing about. Stop claiming you were abused when you weren't.
By doing this, you pave the way for real abusers to abuse real victims because your lies are blinding people to what real abuse looks like. You're talking so loudly about things you know nothing about that no one can hear the real victims.
Because of you, court judges discredit victims, society turns their faces from them, and the word "feminist" has taken on a negative connotation. No one knows what to believe anymore because the false claims have muddied the waters.
In relationships, people get hurt. It's not pleasant, it's not fair, and it's definitely not always comfortable. Relationships change and sometimes they end.
But that's called life, not abuse.
Just because you didn't always get along, he didn't always listen to you, she wasn't always sweet to you, and you can't agree on a parenting style, that doesn't mean you were abused.
Abuse is a the woman who was left bloodied and broken at the hand of her boyfriend.
Abuse is the man who, after years of being emotionally ravaged by his wife, doesn't even know who he is anymore.
Abuse is the time she said, "No," and he didn't listen.
Abuse is the constant and relentless control that someone exerts over another person's life, or the moments of sheer terror when that life is threatened to end.
Abuse is post-traumatic stress disorder, unrelenting anxiety, crushed self-esteem, and very real scars.
It's all the blood and tears and shattered dreams that have stolen the lives and futures away from people who deserved the chance to be who they were destined to be.
It's not just a word to be thrown around when you feel wronged.
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