Relationship Talk With Bukky: Really, why can't I date my friend's ex?

Dear Bukky,

This issue has been burning on my mind since but I need to pour it out. There is this girl whom I like but she was dating my friend.

All along, this friend of mine had no intention of marrying her because he likes another girl who he was dating while he was with her. He is still dating the other girl at present and wants to settle with her.

Before he finally broke up with this former babe last 2 weeks, both of them usually come to my apartment sometimes to spend the weekend in which I might be around or not.

So my question is can I go ahead asking her out because I really like her n want to settle with her. And what of my friend, though I have not told him yet. Please I need your advice.___________

Dear reader,

I am a firm believer in doing what makes you happy. So naturally, I am going to tell you to get that woman if she’s the best person you genuinely feel in your heart that you could possibly be with.

While I am in support of doing what makes you happy, I also think it is wise to consider how other people feel. If the things that make you happy will logically make someone else unhappy, then maybe you should not do them.

In this case, this would mean that if your partner just broke up with the babe, you might need to wait a long while before getting into a relationship with her. Dating her immediately your friend left her will look too much like a betrayal.

He is going to think that you have been eyeing her even before he left her, and he would be right to think so.

Unless you do not care much for the friendship anymore, please do not ask her out yet. It will be too early. You may have to wait a while before pursuing your interest in her. And even at that, you still have to hope that your friend understands. It will be an awkward conversation to have with him but you should.

Talk ti him and let him know what you plan to do and hear what he has to say about it.

In the end, I think you should just do what is best for you.______________Do you want to talk about your love life, marriage or family issues?

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