My man says he's in love with me and another; what do I do?

Dear Bukky,

I have a boyfriend whom I just fell in love with after so much love and affection shown to me by him.

We’ve had sex on countless occasions. On one of such occasions he told me he has a girlfriend somewhere else and he loves the both of us. I wondered how he will love two women at the same time. I became emotionally disturbed.

My question now is should I break up with him which will make me become a living dead because I still love him or I should continue with the relationship... please I need advice._____________

Dear reader,

If he strung you along that far despite having another woman all along, then maybe this intention was to just use you and let go of you eventually.

It may not sound like it to you, but think about it. If he really wanted to be forthright, he wouldn’t wait to get in a relationship with you before telling you this. He wouldn’t wait till he’s had all that sex and done all that with you before coming clean. In my opinion, this is the plan all along - to have his way and then put you in this crazy situation eventually.

About leaving him, I think you should. The love you feel for him seems misplaced to me. And it could just be the [good] sex clouding your brain and thought process. You don’t have to fight for his attention with another woman, and if he’s trying to put you through this, you should know better than accommodate it.

Let that man go. You may be hurt at first, but you will get over it with time. And to be very honest, I think it is better to nip this relationship in the bud rather than let it continue to a point where it gets more damaging than it already is.______________

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