Must there be sex every time I visit my boyfriend?

Hello,

My boyfriend wants to have sex with me anytime l visit him but I don't want to.

What should I do?____________

Dear reader,

That’s not a relationship for you APPARENTLY.

Here is someone who wants a sexual romantic relationship and all you want is just a romantic relationship. Doesn’t this look clearly like a mismatch?

If you do not want sex in a relationship, date someone who does not want sex, too; someone who is willing to wait till marriage like you. That way, you won’t be having these issues.

I think you are also running the risk of something unsavory by visiting him when you know he’ll surely ask for sex and you do not want sex. There is a risk of rape here. Avoid that by not remaining in private places with him. Obviously that means you should stop going to his house.

And this creates another set of problems. How are you supposed to be in a relationship with someone and not be able to visit him in his apartment?

In essence this is a fundamentally faulty relationship. You and that man need to sit down and ask each other frank questions and make real, tough decisions.

You should allow him the opportunity of speaking honestly. That means you don’t throw tantrums or try to emotionally blackmail him for saying his mind.

If it turns out that he really still wants a sexual relationship, end the relationship unless you are ready to break your oath of celibacy.

For future relationships, always ask this and other sex-related questions before getting into it. If not, you’ll keep finding yourself in these situations.______________Do you want to talk about your love life, marriage or family issues?

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