3 Nigerian guys speak

If women are pressured into marriage more, why then are the men commanded by the Bible to go seek the women after leaving their parents' house and not the other way round?

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1.) Do men also get pressured to get married?

Bassey: "Yes, of course. The difference between ours and the women is that it starts mounting when we hit 40 and above. I understand that for the women, its 27 - plus."

Tobi: "I think so. But we really don't get so much pressure from the society though. May be from the family -- our mothers - and ourselves. When you get to a certain age, say 38, you sit yourself down and tell yourself the truth. What do you want now? When are you going to be a father?  We ask these questions ourselves."

Thomas: "We do, for sure. My mom started hitting me with that topic after I got a job. I was only 27. I stubbornly dodged away from those conversations till i hit 30. I found her and married her when I was 32. I think i did a great job."

2.) Should men also get married early?

Bassey: "If you can, why not? Why waste time when you are convinced you've found the right babe? Go on and tie the f**king knot!"

Tobi: "I don't think so. Men are mostly the ones heading the house and that comes with finances... as in money, cash, ego lol. In Nigeria and even in Africa, a man has to be financially stable before he gets married and to be honest, that cannot happen when you are in your twenties or early thirties."

Thomas: "I think a man marrying in his twenties is ridiculous. even if you're rich at that age. Men love life and love to flex around with or without money. Let a man live his life in his twenties and when 30 hits, marriage becomes a topic to consider. My advice is that no BOY should get married until he's a MAN. Am I making any sense?"

3.) Why do you think men are also pressured to get married?

Bassey: "Every mother or parent wants that for their son. So parents start asking funny questions about your sex or love life just to know if you're thinking of settling down early enough. They just love and care too much. Lol. But seriously, I think parents just want grandchildren and don't want us to have them out of wedlock."

Tobi: "There is this sense of responsibility that sets in when you get married. I believe a father wants to see that his son is "responsible" before he dies. Just to be sure he would be fine and is the child he raised properly. But some times, married men are the most irresponsible people too. So I get confused."

Thomas: "Men are to be responsible, period! That's why the society, family, friends, love ones wants us married. I understand that but you can't force us to marry just because its a responsible thing to do. However, having babies early is always a joy when you're old. "

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