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McShayn's Love Thread How much fight makes a relationship unhealthy?

Fact: You can hardly be in a serious, committed relationship without, at least, occasional arguments, quarrels or fights.

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Couples can make their relationships become stronger by having arguments play

Couples can make their relationships become stronger by having arguments

(Gabriel's reports)

No matter how sweet the love, or how magical the romance, there are bound to still be moments of disagreement in a relationship, which could vary from little arguments to full blown squabbles and days of sulking and not speaking to each other.

Established; these arguments do not automatically put your relationship on the brink of failure, no.

However, every positive thing has the tendency of becoming negative when it becomes too much.

Following that logic, it is safe to say that having too much of lovers’ fights puts your relationship at risk of breaking apart.

The question then is this; when do these fights become too much, and at what point should one become worried or scared that their relationship will fail due to irreconcilable differences?

play You can hardly be in a serious relationship without, at least, occasional arguments, quarrels or fights (DN)


The truth is that there isn’t an exact measure or a standard rule that helps one decide this. Every relationship is made up of different people who have different ways of relating with each other.

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Some couples are non-confrontational, often letting matters slide and just die naturally. [Though this is not exactly a good thing.]

Other couples prefer to talk about all situations, putting their foot down and letting the wrong partner recognize how they are at fault even if it means an argument would ensue.

It appears that the amount of time couples argue or fight  is not even what has the biggest potential of destroying the relationship; it is more a question of how they resolve those fights.

play Quarrels are meant to be swiftly settled, not allowed to fester into worse scenarios (Hiba Magazine)


If couple A get into a single small fight and begin to hurl insultive, hurtful words at each other, and also refuse to break the ice and talk about the matter, there is a strong possibility that every single day spent not speaking to each other dents the relationship futher.

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Compare them to couple B, whose quarrels are a bit more often, but every time that happens, they sit down, talk about the issues, apologise sincerely and reach a compromise.

Of course, it does not require rocket science to know that couple B has a higher chance of maintaining a healthy relationship.

Relationships are hinged on the ability of couples to realise that although fights and differences are inevitable, they are not meant to let these differences end the relationship.

play When couples get into fights, quick resolution is what should be on their minds, and breakups ( All in)


Disputes are meant to make couples communicate, help them come to a compromise and understand each other better.

So ultimately, it is not really about how many times couples quarrel that threatens the health and existence of their relationship, it is their inability to swallow their pride, communicate and reach compromises that does.

Do not seek a partner with whom there will be no differences or clash of opinions; seek one with whom differences can be used to forge healthier, stronger relationships, and you'll be just fine.

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