If you think love dies or declines after years of marriage, then you have another thing coming.

If he/she was once upon a time your favorite person on planet earth and now, doesnt rock your world no more after years of being married and a couple of kids, here are four simple, yet solid ways to show your spouse you still choose them every day.

1. Begin by choosing/loving YOURSELF.

When you feel out of sorts with yourself, you tend to transfer that feeling of discontent onto your partner (usually by finding fault with his or her every move). "Relationships often reflect the deepest part of ourselves," says dating and relationship coach Clayton Olson. "Whether or not you choose your partner usually reflects how truly you choose yourself. Self-love is a requirement to true love. Accepting and loving yourself, just the way that you are, allows freedom to love and accept your partner without trying to change them."

So, today (and every day) be a little kinder to yourself. Start focusing on things you like about yourself (versus nit-picking yourself constantly). Then share some of that accepting warmth with your partner.

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2. Thank your partner for something every day.

It's so easy to take your partner for granted, but the truth is — he or she doesn't HAVE TO do anything for you before you show gratitude. So make a point to frequently recognize the kindness and effort he/she pours in your direction. "We often miss opportunities to thank our spouse or partner," says licensed professional counselor Elizabeth Casey. "We don't have to wait until our spouse moves heaven and earth to say 'thank you;' there are small moments every day when you can make your partner feel appreciated. Say 'thank you' for taking the garbage out, for making sure laundry is folded, and all the little things that make a big difference in your life!

3. Take time to focus just on each other ... even just for a few minutes.

"In the beginning of a relationship, we focus a lot of time learning everything we can about each other," says marriage coach and counselor Lesli Doares. But quickly 'life' takes over and our spouse gets bumped to the back burner as other tasks and priorities take precedence. Show your partner he or she is still what matters most to you by making a ritual of spending focused time with each other, even briefly.

"Taking at least twenty minutes per day to deeply focus on your partner (and their day) makes them feel so important and like you really do still care," says Doares. "So, put your phone down, turn the TV off, back away from the laptop and look your partner in the eye while you talk to each other or hug for a few powerful minutes. Those brief respites of loving focus will help keep you both feeling charged and deeply connected the rest of the day."

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4. Touch your partner without sexual intentions.

We've all heard how important frequent sex is in marriage. But unless your partner still feels truly chosen by you, the quality of your sex life will likely decline quickly. Personal relationship coach Lewis Brown Griggs recommends letting "less sexuality win any time a non-interest in sex is sensed or requested."

Instead of rejecting or snubbing your partner in those moments, show your partner that you happily choose him or her, even when sex isn't happening. Treat your partner with tender care and sweet affection at those times. Griggs says, you'll "notice an enormous mutual benefit not only from being more tender and sensually connected, but often a more loving and intimate sexuality emerges from that tolerance of sex sometimes not being desired."

The long and short of this is that you promised to look at your partner with love ... Forever …on the day you got married. The best way to make good on that promise — (remember, you did say "I do!") — and keep your marriage vibrant for a lifetime is to happily show your partner you still chose him or her today!