6 things happy couples rarely do

Authors:

Ayoola Adetayo

March 20, 2018 3:11 PM

To discover happiness in your relationship, here are things you should never do or keep to a very bare minimum.

Every relationship that’s filled with happiness has a foundation of said and unsaid guidelines; things that the couple do always and things they rarely do, if ever.

If you are in an unhappy place with your partner, it could be because you regularly permit things in your relationship which you shouldn’t.

1. Complain

It’s fine to comment about stuff your partner does that you do not like. When you overdo it though, it becomes nagging and that is what no one like in a woman… or in a man for that matter. Happy couples do not nag. You should not too.

2. Disregard opinions

One aspect people rarely cover when talking about nagging is the role played by the other party.

Sometimes people nag because they have a reason to.

If s partner lets the other know about stuff that bothers him or her, it makes sense to pay attention and not ignore.

Even if you won’t take their advice in the end, happy couples understand the importance of making each other important so they don’t just wave away opinions of each other.

No happy couple does that, you shouldn’t either.

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3. Go to bed angry

Because you and your boo are not perfect, sometimes emotions will boil over and you would go to bed angry.

Ideally, it is advised that you never leave issues unresolved before bed time; but everyone knows that that’s a tall order. So sometimes you’ll run foul of that rule.

Don’t make an habit of it though.

4. Refuse communication

Never ignore the chance to communicate. Never be too angry to the point of ignoring your partner’s call for communication. If they want to talk, don’t shun them. The end is near if you resort to this all the time.

5. Involvingoutsiders ahead of your partner

Your partner should understand your emotions and feelings more than anyone in the world; so it does not make sense to always resort to outsiders for emotional, physical support and companionship without reaching out to your partner for it.

Outsiders, agony aunts and relationship experts on social media are never going to know more about your relationship than your partner. So a conversation or an email to either of those people should not be your first point of action, except when your partner is being stubborn and refuses communication.

6. Sly your partner for your friends

Ok. This one is very common and very understandable. You’d want to hang out with your guys and your girls sometimes, to the detriment of spending time with your lover.

While no one would begrudge you of the chance of spending time with people you likely knew before you met your lover, it behoves you to know that you can’t do this too regularly because that would upstage the balance in your relationship.

You need to let your partner know at all times that they are priority.