When breakups happen, they hurt, especially if they ended abruptly after partners have become so attached to the comfort, joys, and even inconveniences of being with each other.
It’d have been ideal and just so great if the pain would go away just like that.
It would have been fantastic if the memories would just go as instantly and abruptly as them; and if every song on the radio wouldn’t seemingly remind you of the best moments you had with them.
It never happens that way though.
People spend days, months and longer struggling to find meaning for their new situation, to redirect their lives and generally turn away from that dead end. Breakups make you seek best ways to bridge the divide between the blissful place you were at just a while ago and the new, unexpected misery you feel you’ve been driven into.
So what happens, most times, is that people try to still hold on to the past as much as they can. The commonest way this is done in modern relationships is by staying on the social media platform of the ex.
ALSO READ:5 things you get to learn from breakups
This, however, is the most counter-productive thing ever when considering ways to actually heal and move on from a breakup. Choosing to do this is basically like leaving a window open so as to peek into the grand festivities at a buffet you did not get invited to.
It does more harm than good. Keeping up with the life and times of the person that broke your heart and dumped you is not going to help you move on.
First, seeing your ex being happy, or with another person after a breakup, while you are yet to move on will very likely make you feel extra miserable and bitter, two feelings you should actually be trying to downplay rather than dwell on.
Out of sight is out of mind. What you can’t see can’t bug you and in this case, what you don’t know will surely not hamper your healing process.
While it is cool to want to remain friends with your ex after a breakup, such breakup needs to come after you have healed; after you have come to grips with the fact that the relationship is over, after you have really moved on from him or her.
Before then, though, that partner needs to stay blocked. Contact needs to be cut off totally especially if you know the temptation to reach out is still strong.
Till you find your feet, relocate happiness and become free of every negative vibe, you need keep that partner blocked for you own good.