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Love and Dating 8 popular relationship tips you should totally ignore

Over the years, some relationship tips have been repeatedly offered by those who think they know, to those who feel they need them. That these tips are popular does not mean they are actually true or effective.

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Every relationship has its ups and downs, and there are always friends and family on the side with endless tips and pieces of advice to share.

Over the years, some relationship tips have been repeatedly offered by those who think they know, to those who feel they need them. That these tips are popular does not mean they are actually true or effective.

Here are 8 common relationship tips which you would do well to ignore if you really want your relationship to succeed:

  1. Love Is All You Need: Sure, love is crucial in a happy and successful relationship. But having the idea that love is all you need is semi-ridiculous. Have people forgotten about respect, trust, loyalty? Love doesn’t conquer all. It’s one of the main ingredients in a partnership, but to say that’s all you need is misguided. The recipe includes much more and without the other ingredients, the finished product won’t come out just right.

  2. Love Doesn’t Happen When You’re Looking For It: Tell this to the millions of people involved in online dating. Who even started telling this lie? This statement is not only annoying, but it’s infuriating to the people in the world who are actually looking for love. Just because a person is open and ready to find his or her match means that it won’t happen? False.

  3. Wait Three Dates To Have Sex: Planning on when to have sex based on the number of dates is just plain silly. Dating is not a game where one plus one equals two. There’s no exact science. Having sex shouldn’t be contingent on how many times you’ve seen your date. It should be whenever you WANT to. Whether that’s the first date or the fifteenth, it’s your decision to make for yourself.

  4. Couples Shouldn’t Argue: We're not saying couples should be down each other’s throats every single night but it’s normal to have some arguments here and there. Couples that don’t fight at all probably aren’t truly communicating. It’s healthy to have arguments because it means you and your partner are talking things through. You are molding two lives into one, so there are bound to be some moments of tension. Embrace it in a healthy way.

  5. Never Go To Sleep Angry: You can throw this old relationship advice out with yesterday’s junk mail. The idea that you and your partner should never go to sleep upset at each other is outdated and nearly impossible. There will be times you two are upset with one another, and that’s okay. You don’t need to rush making things “nice” again just because it’s bedtime. Sometimes a little sleep can do the body good.

  6. Everyone Deserves A Second Chance: The only people that say this are probably the ones that want a second chance. Sure, some people deserve another chance. But, to say everyone does is absurd. You have the right to decide that for yourself.

  7. If Your Partner Is Jealous It Means He/She Loves You: Feelings of jealously in a relationship can be normal, but acting on that jealousy is another story. One that reads like a final chapter. If your partner is looking through your phone, that doesn’t mean he or she just loves you so much, it means he or she has trust issues. It’s speaking to a bigger issue within the relationship.

  8. The Best Way To Get Over Someone Is To Get Under Someone: Indicating that the best way to get over a previous lover is to have sex with a new person is foolish. Sex can be a fun distraction in the moment, but it’s only temporary. Getting down with someone new won’t help you in the long run. You need to deal with your emotions about your previous partner before moving forward. The best way to get over someone is to actually do the work of getting over that person.

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