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Relationship Talk With Bukky: It's been eight years; I still don't trust him

This is such a stressful relationship to be in.

What different ways do women handle breakups and heartbreaks.

Dear Bukky,

I am 24 and I have a partner who is 36. We have a big problem in our relationship we have been dating for eight years now and he wasn't faithful to me before and I haven't trusted him since then.

This has started to affect our relationship because I still don’t trust him. Sometimes he doesn't answer some of his calls when I’m with him so we fight whenever we are together we don't get along well. He's not financially stable and also stresses me.___________

Dear reader,

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No relationship should be this toxic, I have to spell that out to you before any other thing. Every time you are with a partner who makes you feel negative things more than negative, you have to think of a way of getting out. Matter of fact, you have to get out.

No matter how blissful the blissful moments are, if they are far in between the horrible times, you can’t let those intense, but sporadic moments of bliss keep you. The only way has to be out!

You are probably thinking now about how you are going to leave a partner of eight years to go and start again. But here is the thing: it is better to be alone than to force yourself to remain with a partner just because it has been so long.

That it has been on for so long does not mean it has to last forever. If you are no longer getting joy from it like you used to, if the trust will just not come back despite all your attempts, then maybe it’s time to let it go.

You are 24. There is still so much of your life to be spent. I don’t think you’d want to spend it in such distrust and unhappiness. Relationships are measured in happiness, not time.

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I hope that decision helps you make the right decision.___________Do you want to talk about your love life, marriage or family issues?

Do you have burning questions that you would love to get answers to?

Just send a mail to relationships@pulse.ng and I'll provide the most honest answers to them anonymously.

Note; the chances of getting a quick response reduces if the text in your email has a lot of abbreviations. So, please write as properly as possible.

So, why not send that mail today and let's talk about it?

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