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Relationship Talk I'm in love with two men, I don't know who to choose

I don't know who I want to be with between the two of them because they both love me.

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Worried young woman.



I'm still very much attracted to the married man I lost my virginity to, he's divorced his wife and wants to settle down with me. He caters for me financially and loves me dearly.

But I’m in a relationship with this fine gentleman who also wants to settle down with me when I'm done with school but he hardly spends for me.

I love him so much but I don't know what to do and I don't know who I want to be with between the two of them because they both love me.

Dear reader,

The decision rests obviously with you. And if I were you, I’d choose the person who embodies my values and most important needs more.

Which of the pair do you feel safest with; which of them meets your emotional, spiritual, physical and other needs the most? Which of them do you see the future with?

I intentionally left financial needs out not because it’s unimportant; it’s actually very important too, but please do not let it becloud your judgement. Let the man satisfy all your most important criteria and bring you happiness and peace of mind without which money may not mean much.

I hope you find lasting happiness in whatever choice you make.
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