Sexual assault is illegal, unwanted or unwelcome form of sexual contact such as rape, touching or groping without consent.
Rape is particularly being spoken against, ever so loudly, at this point in time. Following recent reports of women being raped and murdered in Benin and Ibadan, and NUMEROUS heartbreaking stories being told on social media by victims, awareness is at an all time high, and people are indignantly pushing for change through many hashtags, including #WeAreTired.
It is not only important to be well-educated on the subject of consent and eradication of the rape culture in Nigeria, it is also pertinent to join forces with people educating and sensitizing the public, and those who are advocating for justice and real change through the force of Law.
Here is how to play your part:
1. Don't turn a blind-eye to rape and rapists
There are times to mind one's business, yeah. And there are times to not. NEVER turn a blind eye when you see sutff like the tweet below. Also, there shouldn't be a thing as 'Bro Code' where rape and other forms of sexual assault are concerned. Do not coddle rapists. Call them out - whether they're family or friends.
2. Do not be a rape apologist either.
Don't ask people what they were wearing. Or where they were when they were sexually assualted or raped, or why they did not speak up early enough. Or any other thing that makes the victim feel guilty and ashamed. All that is for the rapist, not the victim.
3. Let's get justice for Uwa
Uwa was raped and murdered in Edo state. Nothing can be done to bring her back but a lot can be done to fight for justice on her behalf. Throw your weight behind this cause:
5. Put pressure on the government to do the right thing
Women from all walks of life have it diffiult with sexual predators. In the banks, in the tech space, in media, in the church, school... everywhere!
The least we can do is make life easier for our sisters and daughters and mothers. Let's start by asking the Nigerian senate to do something about the #SexForMarksBill.
6. Report to the police - OR NOT
If you don't feel like reporting to the police [directly], contact these guys here. They know what to do.
7. Do not rape anyone
Or try to finger them without their consent, or grope them, or try to kiss them when they're uninterested, or put date drugs in their drinks, or send them unsolicited pictures of your genitals, or make lewd and uncomfortable remarks or signs to them; or make fake rape reports. DO NOT DO ANY OF THESE THINGS! IT FURTHERS THE RAPE CULTURE WE ARE TRYING TO STAMP OUT.
8. And how about we bring proper sex education to schools?
If you liked this article and/or feel impassioned about it, then you'll love this one here, too.
Pulse strongly condemns violence and sexual assault against women. We’re firmly behind all campaigns against rape and declare our support for the individuals, groups and organizations working hard, fighting tirelessly to make our community safe for girls and women; and unconducive for rapists and other sexual predators.
To report rape and to support this cause, reach out to any of the organisations listed in the slides >>>
[It’d be nice if you can get their logos and place it in their respective slides]
1. Stand To End Rape Initiative
[Lagos, Abuja, and Port Harcourt]
2. Mirabel Center
3. Domestic & Sexual Violence Response Team [DSVRT] Lagos
4. Women at Risk International Foundation. [WARIF] Lagos
0809 210 0008
5. The Consent Workshop
If you know any organization or NGO fighting rape and other forms of violence against women in your city or state, please drop their contact information in the comments section. You could be helping several women.