5 things that can negatively affect trust between partners

The thing about trust is that although it takes time to build, it does not take too much to lose it.

It often takes some time to warm up to another person completely, and for some, it may even be difficult to let down their guard easily.

Once the trust is achieved though, they may love truly and trust deeply. A woman or woman in love will make excuses for you when you are not getting it right, they will stand by you when you are yet to find your feet and be there for you when you need someone to lean on.

But the thing about trust is that although it takes time to build, it does not take too much to lose. While your partner may give you a long leash because of the love they have for you, there are still things you should avoid so as not to abuse that trust.

Some of those 5 things are listed below.

1. Avoid situations that require apologies

A good partner would recognise that they have roles, duties and responsibilities, and would act accordingly.

That way you. they do not need to apologise for disappointing the significant other. If you can build a habit of doing things expected of you and living up to your promises, you can be sure to never lose your partner's belief in you.

A good partner would recognise that they have roles, duties and responsibilities, and would act accordingly. (Credit - Hot 963) Pulse Live Kenya

2. Don't be unapologetic

Sometimes circumstances occur beyond your control. When these uncontrollable things happen and affect your ability to deliver on a promise made or causes some actions you would normally not take, be apologetic enough and give accurate explanations for why you were unable to do what you said you would, or for why you did what you shouldn't have.

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3. Don't be a many-faced god

On one hand, this speaks of the level of honesty you would need to practice with your partner at all times. No lies, no 'convenient' forgetfulness when you should be telling them certain truths about certain things.

On the flipside, it also means your character needs to be same everywhere, around everybody.

Imagine having to change your personality around the different groups of people you belong in.

Here you are religious and full of good morals, at another place you are free and full of loose talk. That’s being double-faced and a partner who notices this might have issues trusting you completely you.

The thing about trust is that although it takes time to build, it does not take too much to lose it. (Credit - Ebony) Pulse Live Kenya

4. Do you keep private stuff private?

If you are quick to share every sensitive secret you are trusted with to him or her, won’t it be long before they start to wonder if their own secrets are even safe with you?

Let's say this level of openness may be forgiven and tagged as 'lover's privilege,' the next question will be; do you treat their secrets with the utmost confidence, or do you make it a topic of gist amongst your friends?

The former is great, the latter is not a good idea.

5. How you talk about people you ‘care’ about

Do you say bad things about people you ‘care’ about behind their backs? Do you belittle them and make them sound or look like nothing when they are not there?

This could also affect the way you are seen, and the amount of trust your partner will have in you.