Relationship Talk With Bukky: How to know a guy who really loves you

Dear Bukky,

What can I do to bring back my feelings? A guy has been asking me for a serious relationship but I keep being rude to him because I don't trust guys again.

Not just him but to any guy that crosses my line. What should I do to bring back my feelings because I know I will be married someday.

And how do I know a guy that truly loves, and not just lusts after a girl? Thanks._________

Dear reader,

The answer is time. The response to your question is that you need time to move on, to heal completely. You need time to be whole again, for the hurt to heal and for all the emotional numbness to pass. You will need all the time you can afford. So I think you should just move at your own pace.

There is no need to rush. No need to force things to happen. You do not need to hurry this process. Leave it to play out and just give yourself all the needed care and good feeling you can take.

It’s only a matter of time before you’ll genuinely feel yourself opening up to someone. When that time comes, I think you will know.

To know if a guy loves you and not just lusts after your body, you should try and be friends with people first. Knowing each other without the pressure of a relationship will do you a world of good.

No need to pretend, no need to please, just… freedom to be. That freedom to express and just show each other all available sides available is really great.

When someone is that free and open, you can tell what they like and what they don’t. You can tell what if you can live with them or not, if their ways and yours can align without too much conflict or not.

If you can maintain friendship with a guy for a while without the pressure of dating or sex, it usually points to the possibility of a great relationship. If you ever find a guy who gets with you to this stage, that's likely what you are looking for._________________

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