How do you move from friendship to relationship with a girl you like?

Relationship Talk With Bukky: She wants to be just friends; I want more!

Bukky Sanni

January 23, 2019 10:20 AM

What to do when the woman you're dying to be with wants to be your buddy and nothing more.

She wants to be just friends; I want more![Source: Essence]

Dear Bukky,

I'm really in a state of confusion about my love life and I don't know what to do anymore.

There is this girl that I love so much and she said she loves me too. But the problem is that, I want a relationship and she wants a friendship and not ready for a relationship.

We have been best of friends for months now and she's very okay telling me everything about her and every single thing going on with her. The point now is, I tried to end the friendship so as to enable me move on but she said she can't let go, that I'm somebody she wouldn't want to lose.

Please advise me because I'm really confused.

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Dear reader,

I advise that you do it nonetheless, but do it slowly. It’s the best thing for you.

For her, she is having the best of both worlds. She is enjoying the friendship and all the benefits because that’s what she is ok with. It is easy for her to keep loving every moment. But for you that is not enough, and as much as the friendship is worth keeping, I think you should also look out for yourself.

If being with her and yet being so fat away from your goal frustrates you so much and makes you feel some type of way, then pull back. If it is getting unbearable, pull away and get your sanity back.

On the other hand, be careful because even though you are in the friend zone right now, staying right there may be the key to getting her eventually.

If it is becoming too long or she’s getting too close for comfort, though, you should always put yourself and your happiness first even if it means leaving her for good.

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Bukky Sanni