How do I know my boyfriend is not seeing someone else?

Dear Bukky,

I have a man who of recent has been going through a lot of challenges. It has affected our relationship so much that we hardly have time together like we used to.

My worry is, is it what he is going through that is limiting our time together or is he using it as a cover up?

I love him so much and it has affected me._________

Dear reader,

First thing is to ascertain how trustworthy your man is. Does he have a track record of keeping to his word and staying faithful?

If in words and deeds you can vouch for his character as a person before these challenges came, then you should be thinking of how to help him through these challenges instead of wondering if he’s no longer interested in you.

Men are societally wired to be providers, to want to have things under control and be able to meet needs. His inability to do these things could be eating away at his ego so much that he no longer feels adequate enough to be with you, and spend moments with you like he used to.

Unless he has proven to be a philanderer in the past, I think now is not the time to be nursing suspicions. Instead, chanel that energy into helping him through this phase in any way that you can, and if you cannot, show him that you have some faith and patience to know that what he’s going through will blow over.

If he gets the vibe that he can be with you all the time - riches, poverty, problem, peaceful - this also helps.____________

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