- You pressure for perfection too early
This does not come immediately, or right off the bat. And you need to realise this. . Some connections need to be worked on to grow into the love story you desire. Projecting an unrealistic desire for ‘perfect’ on a guy too early will shoo him off even though that is not what you want.
- You postpone things you should focus on
When it comes to dating, you want a relationship, but don’t prioritise the things you should be doing to make yourself a better person, and therefore a better potential partner. Stop making up reasons why you can’t have what you want right now. Self-development is good, but take small steps versus using them as an excuse.
- You let the past upstage the present
Sounds like you? Well then. It may make sense to slow down, take a break, and get back into the dating game when you’re actually ready. You may be disappointed if you force expectations of perfection, especially too early into the relationship.
- You think you are available, but you really aren’t
We love to think we are emotionally available for the “one” at all times, but sometimes we have to be realistic about our own roadblocks. A “reserve relationship pattern” is described as someone who is in a relationship, but keeps someone hovering around her as a backup plan in case plan A falls through. This type of person also still consistently communicates or sexes an ex. They also can’t stand to be alone.
If this sounds like you, the best remedy is to be alone and get comfortable before pursuing a relationship.