Relationship Talk With Bukky: He loves me but speaks terrible English; I don't know what to do

Dear Bukky,

I am 28 years old, I finished my NYSC few weeks ago so searching for job now. I broke up with my ex about five years ago and we started dating again February this year.

He is a business man, he just finished part- time ND when I met him then but his English writing and speaking is terrible and I bother about introducing him to my family because of his spoken English, my brother wants me to end up with a career man.

He is focused though social type, he drinks and smoke sometimes, he has some assets and also think about the future. He is caring, he gives me anything I want even when I don’t ask him.

He shares his plan with me and also planning life with me but he is a stubborn type, I am also a stubborn type because I believe we both have right in our relationship but he feels as a man when he is speaking I should keep quiet.

I am scared of getting married to him even though I know he really loves me. I am also working on myself to be calm with him but am just scared about accepting his proposal. Please advise me on what to do. ____________

Dear reader,

I once had a similar question to this a while back, and my opinion on your question is the same one I gave back then.

So, here goes:

“If the English is the only thing standing in your way, I think you should brush it aside and move ahead with the relationship.

“Does he treat you well? Does he manage money well? Does he take his responsibility seriously? Does he fit the profile of

If the answers to these are all in the affirmative, I see no reason why you should not be with him.

I understand the worry about how he speaks; but really, all that is just for the appearances. What decides marital happiness goes way deeper than that.

Besides, perfection is uneasy to find, if it can ever be. So take this as one thing to . I think this shouldn’t be difficult to do, given how he has shown interest in making concerted efforts to improve.

The fears you have about the future are normal. Everyone gets them when they’re about to take these steps.

See, formally-educated guys can be over-possessive and throw unnecessary tantrums, too. It's a matter of character not education.

In the end, because no one knows tomorrow, you just have to take a leap of faith and hope for the best.

I think the only issue that should really bug you is your parent’s disapproval. If that one is gotten out of the way, every other thing should be fine.

If that man feels good for you and you know it, please don’t let his inability to speak good English stand in your way.”______________

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