Getting married means you will be with that one guy for the rest of your life, and you need to start thinking in twos.
Plans will include 'we' instead of 'I' and some of those changes require major compromises.
We've made the job easy for you and listed down 15 things you need to let go off before you tie the knot. You might want to take notes.
- Clean up: We mean this in a very literal sense. You need to let go of your messy habits or at least a few of them. Most guys are messy and more often than not they don't clean up. So unless you wish to spend those Saturday offs cleaning the house, we suggest you limit the mess.
- Social media filter: It is fun to upload romantic moments every once in a while, but please don't be the couple who express their love solely on social media. People might like it initially, but six month into the marriage and a zillion updates later you'll find yourself on everyone's restrict list.
- Mommy tales: Having a mom who cooks for you, does your laundry and occasionally gives you some style advice is great, but post marriage pulling a "Let's ask my mom" dialogue for every emergency is going to lead to some bad fights.
- Late nights at work: When it is absolutely necessary, by all means stay back and do the work. Otherwise don't linger around at work just to have a cup of coffee with your work bestie, or to get office gossip updates. Your relationship has crossed a milestone, nurture it by spending some quality time together.
- Self-importance: Take a deep breath and let go of the notion that you are God's gift to mankind. Once that's done with, you'll have an easier time compromising on things and putting up with post-marriage changes.
- Friends with the ex: You need to let that friendship go. Apart from making your soon-to-be husband uncomfortable, the past will just hold you down by not letting you give 100 per cent to the relationship. Of course if your ex is the kind that gets beer crates over on Saturday night and gets into discussions with your fiancé about everything under the sun, hold on to him.
- Let go of the extravagances: Yes, it is absolutely okay to accept (even demand at times) extravagant treats for special days, but curb the greed. Look at the big picture and learn to appreciate the smaller things as that's what will make a marriage work in the long run.
- Filter the info: We all love our BFFs and those marathon conversations where we tell them about everything in our lives, right? Post marriage, you might want to filter some of that information. There are some things that are best shared between the two of you without getting in a third person.
- People screening: If you fall in the category of blocking out people (literally and figuratively) when they annoy you, this is one change that is going to cause you some grief. From your in-laws to some of his best buddies, you might have to put on a friendly front for some people.
- Detective work: Getting in a marriage is a big commitment and if you can't trust your partner, you need a rethink. Going through the phone and figuring out if your guy was in touch with any particular exes might have seemed okay earlier, but trust will make your marriage a smooth sail.
- Dad standards: We all grew up wanting a guy who is as perfect (almost) as our Dads, didn't we? Sadly, it never works that way. Your Dad was a limited edition and men these days just don't work that way. So stop looking for the Dad standards in your man. Having said that, you can still continue to put in efforts to make your guy contribute to the housework, the way your Dad does.
- Digging the past: Whether you like it or hate it, the past helped shaped both of you so there is no point hating it or fighting about it. He secretly dated the girl you absolutely hate at work? Let it go.
- The perfect wedding ring: You might not like the wedding ring all that much. Or the gifts his parents gave you. Or the one his brother specially picked for you. It is perfectly okay to have keep your taste intake and dislike what you dislike. Sit down, have a talk and get the wedding ring changed. For everything else, just shove it under the bed.
- Twosome plans: It's great when your man gets along perfectly well with your besties and everybody can hang out together on weekends. If this doesn't come true, it's is okay to make separate plans and spend time alone rather than force them to like each other.