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For Women What to do when you feel no connection with someone who likes you

There are three options available to you...

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What to do when you're not really drawn to him play

What to do when you're not really drawn to him


When someone is into you but you can't bring yourself to feel the same way about them, what step do you take?

How do you navigate the awkward/difficult situation of rejecting someone without making them feel rejected?

It's one major issue ladies face especially when the guy is a decent one who just somehow couldn't elicit that sweet giddy feeling of falling in love in them.

Eniola Abumere realises this and profers solutions in a video published on his Youtube channel today, May 5th, 2017.

Why people settle for less than they feel they deserve in relationships play You could string him along and see if things will change somewhere along the line... (Breed)


According to him, when a lady finds herself in this kind of situation, she has three options.

1. Go with the flow

The first is to just go with the flow to see where the wave takes her. Everyone deserves to give love a chance even if it's not looking like it at the beginning.

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2. Be honest

Another thing one could do is to flat-out tell the guy that the attraction is just one-sided and that a relationship wouldn't blossom, no matter what the guy does. This requires a sort of brutal honesty and is difficult to pull off.

Generally though, honesty always pays, no matter how uneasy or bitter it is.

Why guys blow their own trumpets play He might not like it, but honesty is the best policy (Pinterest)


3. Ghost him

The last thing to do would be to ghost. Just block off all forms of communication. The person will eventually get the message and stop trying.

Watch the video below to understand better as Eniola discusses these things in detail.

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