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For Guys Stop saying these 5 things to bae if you value your relationship

Many times, communication breaks down not because you don't speak with each other, but because you say the wrong things.

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Stop saying these things if you treasure your relationship


Since communication is a major component of every healthy relationship, it is no surprise that it sometimes takes only a few wrong words to send a relationship crashing into ruin.

One of the first things that happen before the eventual demise of a relationship is the breakdown of communication.

Many times, communication breaks down not because you do not actually speak with each other, but because you say the wrong things.

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If you ever catch your partner saying these things to you with any form of regularity, then, I’m sorry to inform you that unless you stop it immediately, your relationship might be crumbling soon.

play But Shade loves it, why not you? (Shutterstock)

“I know a babe that likes it”

You might only be trying to explain something to her, or trying to convince her to like something, but by mentioning another woman’s preference and trying to bend her in that direction, you might be misinterpreted as trying to make her be like another woman.

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Actually, it looks like that even from this angle. So just stop it already.

“You’re being outrageous right now”

When your woman is ranting and all you can come up with is this statement. Really?!

Guy, like seriously?!

No woman likes to hear this all the time she is trying to point out something that is annoying her about your behavior or actions.

If you are regularly saying that or rolling your eyes, or just laughing off her angry rants, she will  [rightfully] conclude that she is not being taken serious.

Unless you stop, better be prepared to kiss her behind goodbye.

play One of these days, your babe will 'change it for you' if you don't stop saying these things. (Shutterstock)


“I don’t have money for that”

This one falls in the category of what should be treated with more carefulness, because, as a matter of fact, you could indeed be broke [especially in this recession. Chei, God help us guys.]

So, if you can not afford it truly, explain to her as tactfully as possible and if she’s a good woman, she surely will understand.

However, if you actually can afford the thing in question, but you constantly say no, believe me, you will lose that beautiful woman sooner that you think.

"Why do I have to tell you where I am or where I am going?"

This doesn’t just sound disrespectful, it surely is.

Everyone deserves a private life, and even a relationship can't take all of it from you, but a man who constantly tells a woman that she doesn’t deserve to know his whereabouts doesn’t respect the relationship enough and better be prepared to lose it.

play Why do I have to tell you where I am going (Shutterstock)

“Why can’t you just be like Adaobi?”

Okay, I used Adaobi as a random name. You can insert your own preferred name as you read this. Thanks.

Comparisons between your babe and other babes do not ever lead to anywhere good, especially if you are being vocal about it, and to her own face!

Stop it, bro!

As said above, the only way to stop your relationship from crumbling due to this wrong statements is to make a conscious effort to stop.

Your partner might be taking it from you now, but there is only so much she can take and one day, she’ll explode in a rage you might never be able to contain.

And when that rage is over, you’ll be left with no bae and no relationship. Only regret…

Don't forget, you can always reach out to us with your relationship matters and we will try to help you through every single one of them as honestly as possible. Click here to find out how to reach us.

We look forward to hearing from you.

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