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For Brides 11 things you shouldn't expect from your bridesmaids

If you don't want to become a bridezilla or lose your friends after the wedding, then you shouldn't expect these 11 things from them at all.

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A bride with her bridesmaids play

A bride with her bridesmaids


As a bride, you want everything to be perfect for your wedding - from the decorations to the food, and even your dress.

You also want your bridal assistant to look 'perfect' for the day, even when all they want to do is to just look good at your wedding.

If you don't want to become a bridezilla or lose your friends after the wedding, then you shouldn't expect these 11 things from them at all:

  1. Don't expect them to say 'yes' to everything: So you have this grand idea of what you want your bridesmaids to wear and do for you on your big day, but don't have the expectation that all your bridesmaids will always say 'yes' to every wedding suggestion. They're humans not robots, so of course they'll also have their own opinion as to what they should or should not do.

  2. Don't expect them to know what you want: Your friends may have a good idea of the basics, for instance, your favourite movies, colours or foods. But don't expect them to throw a bachelorette party for you and make it everything you've always wanted it to be, without you actually telling them. They're your friends, not professional mind readers.

  3. Don't expect everyone to travel for your bachelorette: Just because you have a travel budget, doesn't mean all of your friends have one too. Out-of-town bachelorette parties are popular, but this doesn't mean you should expect your friends to take off time for your trip and contribute to covering your costs.

  4. Don't expect a huge gift: After spending so much for your bachelorette party, bridal shower(s) and anything else your bridesmaids do for you, don't expect them to add a fancy or expensive gift on top of that. That would be very selfish of you.

  5. Don't expect all your friends to understand your customs: If your wedding ceremony consists of a lot of cultural customs or traditions, don't expect all of your bridesmaids to pick them up right away. It would be best if you explain to them what you think they should know.

  6. Don't make anyone feel bad about being broke: If one of your friend  isn't able to cover the cost of everything and you really want them there, offer to help them out by pitching in. And please, don't let the whole group know about that person's finances.

  7. Don't expect everyone to buy the same shoes: Getting your bridesmaids to buy the same dress is totally cool for pictures, but expecting them to also spend money on matching heels as well, just pushes it over the top. Hint: Not everyone likes heels.

  8. Don't ask any of them to lose weight: Don't ever do this. And don't try to sugarcoat things by suggesting fun "girls' nights" to fitness classes together either. You'll only succeed in putting yourself in someone's bad books.

  9. Don't expect everyone to be happy about sacrificing their weekends: Definitely, your friends and bridesmaids love you, but booking all of your showers, parties and shopping events on long weekends will sort of make them hate you. You don't need to turn their world upside down because of your wedding.

  10. Don't expect a perfect speech: Not everyone is good at public speaking, and a lot of people can become shy. If you want your friends or bridesmaids to say a speech on your wedding day, just be grateful for the time and effort they put towards it.

  11. Don't expect them to be as excited as you are:  Your wedding day will probably be one of the most exciting and happiest days of your life — but that doesn't mean everyone will feel the same way. As happy as your bridesmaids will be for you, not everyone (especially people who are recently single or going through a divorce) will be excited that day.

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