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First Date 15 ways to make him ask you out again

If you've really liked a guy and want to make sure he asks you out again, on a second date, you can make it happen with these quick tips.

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Dating is like playing with fire. You can never really tell if it's going all wrong without actually burning your hand.

On most first dates, the couple is a bundle of nerves. After all you are going to unravel a mystery and the truth can go both ways.

But if you've really liked the guy and want to make sure he asks you out again, on a second date, you can salvage the situation with some quick tips.

  1. Be friendly: It isn't going to work if you keep staring at him all dreamy eyed.  In fact it’ll make him think you are a lunatic of some sort. So get a hold of yourself, girl, and talk your way out. But remember to keep it friendly and low key. Share your likes, dislikes and hobbies. These are conversation starters which will help him know you better.

  2. Exchange contact details: If you really like him, don’t forget to share your number (if you haven’t done it yet). This is the first step to make sure he calls you back to go out again. A subtle hint of sorts. If that’s sorted then add him on social networking sites like Facebook, which will make sure he understands that you are interested.

  3. Thank you message: After the date, don’t forget to thank him for a lovely time with a message and leave him a hint with “Hope to see you soon”. This will make your intentions clear. This is also a great way to keep the communication channels on and will give you a chance to start talking and know him better.

  4. Let him pay: Offering to split the bill is a good gesture but if he insists, let him do so. Apart from being chivalrous, if he really likes you he will want to pay to see you again. You can add that you will make it even the next time around, making a second date mandatory.

  5. Make plans: Do not wait for him to come with a plan and approach you. Instead you can suggest some fun options to get together.  Just make sure it’s at least two days after the date to not look desperate. Think of a movie you both would be interested in or comedy show that you are eager to watch.

  6. Don’t be overconfident: While confidence is an attractive trait, over-confidence can be a big turn off. Make sure you play it safe with just the right amount of confidence.

  7. Seduce not: First dates are to get to know the opposite person so come what may, do not try to seduce him. Keep it friendly and casual, even though in your head you are drooling over him. P.S: Avoid all sex talks even in texts or he is going to think you are too easy to get.

  8. Keep it casual: Don’t show signs of desperation by constant texts and messages, post the date. This will put him off. Instead play it casual. Show interest but just enough to let him know that you only want to go out again if he wants to as well.

  9. Keep the exes away: No matter how friendly you've become, the thumb rule is to always keep the exes for later. Don't avoid the topic completely, but make sure you do not switch to that and vent out all your feelings making it quite an awkward moment. So it’s best to keep your previous relationships under wraps.

  10. Do not boss him: Keep your dominant side under wraps and try and be as compromising as possible. Make an effort to know his point of view and understand it too. He might figure it out later, but for a first date it can be intimidating.

  11. Avoid arguments: If you really like the guy and want him to call you back, make sure you do not indulge in a verbal war. Sometimes people get so carried away with the things they love that a quarrel becomes inevitable. This, friends is a grave for your future relationship especially on a first date.

  12. Be honest: Honesty truly is the best policy especially if your keen on getting in a relationship. So make sure you are honest. Just be yourself, enjoy the company and take every minute as it comes.

  13. Avoid other distractions: Choose a place that’s free of sounds, surrounding chatter and loud music. These things can be every distracting and the effort involved in making a conversation will double up. Keep your phones aside too and don’t answer calls unless they are extremely necessary.

  14. Keep the talks on: Out of sight is out of mind and even though you had a great time, if you do not keep conversing or staying in touch, there is a possibility that you can lose something special. So no matter how busy you are, do try and make some small talk to make sure he doesn't completely forget you.

  15. Pay Attention: No matter how bored you are when he’s talking about cricket and stock market, make an effort to pay attention. This will make him realise that you really like him. It’s also a subtle hint for him to call you back.

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