Should I quit this job I’m doing now that we're breaking up because she's been so proud and seems to gloat about it everytime.
I’m sending this from Lagos. I was in a relationship with a lady I met during my NYSC days in 2015. Though we served in different states, we stood a year without seeing each other until late last year when we finally met.
She was everything to me. I loved her more than myself and we were fine - going out on different dates and anytime I see anything adorable and beautiful, I’d buy for her.
At some point she introduced me to her mum. The job I was doing then wasn't that cool. In one way or the other her parents got me the job I’m doing right now.
We fight a lot that most times I always feel like quitting.
She's the type that takes two to three days of apologies before to forgiving any offence against her. She gives a lot of attitude.
Also at some point I was suspecting she and her male bestie were dating and I was honest enough to tell her about my suspicion. This caused her to become really angry, claiming that I don't trust her.
So we’ve had an issue for a while now and she’s really taken this one to heart. I have been begging her for months now but she doesn't want to come to terms with me.
The last time we met she insulted me and she even said her mum was blaming her for getting a job for me.
Every day she keeps threatening to block me online. She doesn't pick my calls, she keeps telling me to let her be.
Most of my friends have advised me to let her go and even my brother believes I should let her be but I love her so much that I wish we could just start all over again.
So please, should I quit this job I’m doing because she's been so proud about it and should I keep disturbing someone who keeps telling me every day to let her be?
Please I’m just confused. I don't really know what to do.
Note this and don't ever forget it: not everything is meant to last forever.
And from all I have seen so far, this relationship is not meant to. You might need to let it go.
I actually realise how hurtful it is to end a relationship with someone you thought you’d be with forever; but again, some people just come into our lives, play their parts and have to leave.
It’s wrong to force anything. You can’t force friendships or romance, affection, honesty, kindness… anything.
It is better to let things happen naturally.
And as it is, your relationship seems to have reached full cycle. You need to let it go now. You have done all you can, apparently, and it’s not enough.
If someone repeatedly tells you it’s over, then at some point you have to accept that it is indeed over.
As for the job, you better hold on to it!
Why would you even consider leaving your job because you are breaking up with the person through whom you got it?
Please don’t be naïve. What’s done is done.
Hold on to your job, let the woman go.
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