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'You have no respect for your woman if you have a bachelor's party before wedding'

A bachelor party almost always means cheating. I don't understand why men do this to women they supposedly love.

For me, a bachelor party is a lack of respect for my girlfriend, fiancée and future wife. [iStock]

"People who are planning a wedding should be in love with each other and, above all, want to have fun with each other," Ania writes in a letter to Onet.

"Just wanting to participate in such an event is a huge red flag for me," she admits and explains why she will never agree to her fiancé having a stag party.

I won't beat around the bush. The very thought of a stag party disgusts me. Strippers, a sea of ​​alcohol and "farewell to freedom" - if my beloved wanted to celebrate the fact that he would soon become my husband, he probably wouldn't have become my husband. I'm not morbidly jealous or clingy, but I will never agree to a bachelor party like this. This violates my boundaries.

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The very idea of ​​"the last party in freedom" and having fun for all time, because "after marriage you can't do anything anymore" arouses my great opposition. If someone sees marriage this way, I don't understand why they decide to have it at all. There is no compulsion. You can live happily, just like you can be single and do whatever you want without caring what the other person thinks about it.

For me, a bachelor party is a lack of respect for my girlfriend, fiancée and future wife. The very fact that it is supposed not to be there seems unpleasant. But people who are planning a wedding should be in love with each other and, above all, want to have fun with each other. So why is the pre-wedding trip not as popular as the famous bachelor party?

I know that people are different and can have fun in different ways, but somehow when I hear about a stag party, I always hear about naked women, as if it was a mandatory element of this event. If this is combined with various stimulants, it is easy to let go of the brakes and cheat. I don't understand why you tempt fate like that. And just before the wedding.

I believe that men who agree to such "attractions" really have no respect for their woman and their relationship. Or maybe they are not mature enough for marriage at all, or even a permanent, serious relationship.

I've heard a lot about betrayals that took place at bachelor parties. Some of them resulted in the wedding not taking place, others came to light only after some time. For me it's as dirty as any betrayal. Moreover, something that could have been avoided.

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I have only been with my boyfriend for half a year and neither of us is thinking about proposing or getting married yet. But now I know that they definitely won't agree to a typical stag party. Even the willingness to participate in such an event is a huge red flag for me. And I have no intention of marrying someone who will go to a striptease with his friends. Even if it was just this one time.

A bachelor party almost always means cheating. To a greater or lesser extent, this is behaviour directed against the partner. I don't understand why men do this to women they supposedly love. Because it's customary? Because they don't want to seem like a "henpecked"? Then they can be macho and tough, but without getting involved and hurting other people.

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This article was originally published on Onet Woman.

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