These stories show that love could drive you into a marriage, but it is never enough to keep that marriage alive.
People do not divorce unless some negative changes occurred along the line, and those changes became so overwhelming that a divorce became the only sensible thing to do.
Below, seven people [names changed for anonymity purposes] explain the exact reasons why their marriages failed.
Motun says her ex did not put her or the marriage first, something which proved to be the end of their marriage. “Commitment was missing. Our relationship was never the most important thing in his life. Work and his friends always seemed more important,” she says.
"We lost that incredibly special foundation of trust and intimacy with each other," says Ahmed.
"We became more like roommates than intimate partners.”
Christian's marriage was potentially damaged before it even began because he and his ex-wife failed to discuss important life decisions before saying their wedding vows.
“We really didn’t know how to communicate well. At first, it was easy because we didn’t have complicated issues to discuss, but as more challenging times arose, I made independent decisions rather than having open conversations with her and involving her in the decision-making process.
This reduced our intimacy, worsened her fear of conflict and my co-dependent nature. I now that love is not enough, without good communication" he says.
For Mona, marrying too early played a huge part in the ruin of her marriage. “To a degree, I think marrying too young ruined us. The lack of maturity resulted in a tumultuous marriage.
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My ex-husband and I lacked the tolerance, patience and understanding that is critical for all healthy adult relationships and we found ourselves separated before 30."
“Our relationship while married had somehow developed into a non-meaningful one.
We grew into two different people, and the connection and partnership we’d formed all those years ago became damaged and we were so unhappy despite how hard we tried," says Ifeanyi.
Femi says“When I reflect on what was missing from my marriage, honestly, I always reach the conclusion that I did not do enough. I could have done better, really."
“We weren’t friends. Everyone and everything else was always more important.”
According to Dayo, it was as bad as that between her and her ex-husband.
She says somehow they both knew it was only a matter of time before they went their separate ways, so when it happened, it really did not surprise any of them.