- Keeping mute to keep the peace: when you find yourself constantly keeping mute on matters in the relationships that hurt you, or that you want improvement in for example , attitude sex, affection, how it affects you and how they are ignored, but you don’t feel comfortable discussing it with your partner, since it might cause conflict, then its toxic.
- No signs of support: they’re always complaining about your progress, never show up to your awards or when you need them , never give their support when you want to go for what helps to you elevate, never encourage your interests, it’s always about them all the time.
- Trying to control you all the time: they’re always demanding for something from you, your opinions on something as a simple as what to wear does not matter, they try to dictate what you eat, who you hang out with, where you go , how you spend your time, literally everything you are involved with, simple and plain, that’s a toxic behavior.
They constantly pick at you or pick on you: it’s always something with them, they always trying to strip your self-esteem, they try to cut you off from your friends, always commenting on your looks, how its not cool enough, something could be better ,etc.
You constantly feel like you are walking on eggshells around them , you are not as comfortable or as confident in your skin as you used to be because of their remarks.
- Lack of effort: they don’t put effort in spending time with you, are always chronically late for events you’re supposed to go together, no efforts to show how much you mean to them, they don’t compromise in situations that are important to you, they only remember to call or text when they’re in need of your services,, they simply don’t put effort into loving you.
All these patterns of disrespect point towards a toxic relationship that you might end up loosing yourself to, before making any big decisions about not wanting them in your life, try to communicate, point out these actions, make them take responsibility for their actions, be self-aware and pay attention to see if there are changes, if not then its time to remove yourself from the situation.