Golden instructions for women who intend to marry soon in style and class.
Over and over again, the unnecessary zealousness to have unaffordable society weddings has been discouraged but the craze seems to never die down.
This is why this instructive Twitter thread is gold and would come in handy for anyone who intends to marry soon and need to keep themselves in check.
Tweeted by Ozzy Etomi, here are five things every intending bride [and groom] need to pay attention to as they prepare for their big day:
“It should be okay for people to decline being a bridesmaid if it's honestly too expensive. It should be okay for your friends who cannot afford you aso-ebi to not be forced to spend the money,” she says.
“It should be okay a bridal shower to be whatever is within the bridesmaids/friends/family budget and I miss the days when it was girls kikii-ing it up in someones living room.
Women waste too much time and spend too much money and effort on weddings,” she tweets.
Ozzy Etomi correctly says it's OK to buck wedding trends on your wedding day like this amazing couple who recently had a lovely, colourful beach wedding in Lagos.
"The sameness and routine of [weddings] is played out," reads another one of the tweets in that thread.
"I know our culture is overwhelmingly oppressive but I wish more brides were allowed autonomy to celebrate their day however they see fit.”
“Another thing - yes getting married is supposedly the "greatest" event of a woman's live, but stop expecting your wedding to take precedence over things in other people's lives.
“It’s important that your friends are there to celebrate with you & ply you with compliments.
“But don’t use being a 'bride' as an excuse to stop being a friend or being there for others. Your stress isn't more important than someone else's because it’s for a wedding, neither [to be honest], is your event so much more pressing than anything going on in someone else's life.”
"Everytime I see someone morph into a "bride" I'm looking at them like, you're really gonna get sucked into all this shit. It must be addictive - I have no idea," the Tweep writes about brides' tendencies to become absolutely absorbed into the craze to have a perfect wedding.