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Weddings 5 things brides-to-be should never do!

Golden instructions for women who intend to marry soon in style and class.

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Have you given it enough thought before saying 'I do'? play 5 things Nigerian brides need to stop immediately! (Pinterest)

As beautiful as many Nigerian weddings tend to be, there are still loads of issues that need to change, a major one being the obsessive, selfish attitude of brides [and grooms] towards their big day.

Over and over again, the unnecessary zealousness to have unaffordable society weddings has been discouraged but the craze seems to never die down.

This is why this instructive Twitter thread is gold and would come in handy for anyone who intends to marry soon and need to keep themselves in check.

play It is OK to get married, but not at the cost of friendships that have been built over the years. (Pinterest)

Tweeted  by Ozzy Etomi, here are five things every intending bride [and groom] need to pay attention to as they prepare for their big day:

1. Don't force people to be part of your wedding

“It should be okay for people to decline being a bridesmaid if it's honestly too expensive. It should be okay for your friends who cannot afford you aso-ebi to not be forced to spend the money,” she says.

ALSO READ: Why I want less than 30 people at my Nigerian wedding

2. No need to overplay your bridal shower

“It should be okay a bridal shower to be whatever is within the bridesmaids/friends/family budget and I miss the days when it was girls kikii-ing it up in someones living room.

Women waste too much time and spend too much money and effort on weddings,” she tweets.

3. It’s OK to break out of the wedding routine

Ozzy Etomi correctly says it's OK to buck wedding trends on your wedding day like this amazing couple who recently had a lovely, colourful beach wedding in Lagos.

"The sameness and routine of [weddings] is played out," reads another one of the tweets in that thread.

"I know our culture is overwhelmingly oppressive but I wish more brides were allowed autonomy to celebrate their day however they see fit.

ALSO READ: 3 options to explore if you want a small Nigerian wedding

An intimate beach wedding could be just what you need. It is absolutely doable! play It really is OK to have an unconventional wedding. (Pinterest)

4. The world doesn't revolve around your wedding

“Another thing - yes getting married is supposedly the "greatest" event of a woman's live, but stop expecting your wedding to take precedence over things in other people's lives.

“It’s important that your friends are there to celebrate with you & ply you with compliments.

“But don’t use being a 'bride' as an excuse to stop being a friend or being there for others. Your stress isn't more important than someone else's because it’s for a wedding, neither [to be honest], is your event so much more pressing than anything going on in someone else's life.”

Get out and meet people. Being alone now seems deadlier than you ever thought play Be careful to not get sucked up in the marriage frenzy. (Shutterstock)

5. Don't get sucked up

"Everytime I see someone morph into a "bride" I'm looking at them like, you're really gonna get sucked into all this shit. It must be addictive - I have no idea," the Tweep writes about brides' tendencies to become absolutely absorbed into the craze to have a perfect wedding.

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