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Love & Dating Reasons why guys handle rejection badly

Possible explanations for why that guy insulted you when you said no to him.

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A sad, young man. play

A sad, young man.

(How Africa)

Why do guys handle rejection badly?

Why do they suddenly become angry and demeaning when they declare interest in a babe and get curved?

Here are five possible reasons for this:

1. Being strung along

Sometimes, being rejected by a babe is incomprehensible and difficult to process because everything leading to it suggested otherwise.

Some women [un]intentionally lead the guy on with suggestive innuendos and responses that make him feel like a relationship is already on the cards and asking is just a formality.

It is unwise to take breaks from your relationship when things are not going right play Guys who feels they've been used might lash out in frustration when rejected. (Shutterstock)


To get curved after this kind of non-verbal ‘promise’ might be too much for some guys, who then respond with insults, anger and pettiness.

2. Being used

Guys also tend to take rejection badly from women if they feel used.

This is most common when babes accept gift after gift, cash alert after cash alert for months on end, only to then say no when the guy asks for a romantic relationship.

It’s never right to lose your cool and insult a babe who says no, but this is one common reason why men do.

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3. Not particularly serious

When a guy’s only real intent for a babe is to just play around, have sex and move on, it is easy to say trash to her face when she says no to him.

It's sad that sometimes you just can't ever get out of the friend zone play If all he intended was to just smash and pass, he'll have no qualms becoming nasty when denied. He no longer has nothing to lose anyway. (Shutterstock)


On the other hand, if a guy sees a lady as a long term partner, he never says or does anything that’ll totally shut down the possibility, even if she says no the first two or three times.

4. Low self esteem

For some guys, being told no by a woman is an affront to their masculinity.

They’ll start asking questions like: ‘how dare you say no?’

‘Do you even want to marry at all?’

‘Don’t worry; keep saying no, you’ll rot in your father’s house, old haggard, and unmarried.’

Sounds ridiculous, but some guys react this way.

It is childish AF to get petty with babes who don't want a relationship with you, especially if they were respectful and polite about it play It is childish AF to get petty with babes who don't want a relationship with you, especially if they were respectful and polite about it. (Capital FM Kenya)


5. Childish stupidity

Perhaps the biggest reason why guys can’t handle rejection is just immaturity.

A man mature enough in thought and not just in appearance understands that rejection is not the end of the world and acts accordingly.

Only a kid and a man child does not know this.

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