3 ways people ruin perfect relationships

While many people would ideally concentrate on the inner qualities of their partners, others rather prefer to wrongly pay attention to outward appearances, which are actually less ideal.

That is the bottom line of a study led by Gwendolyn Seidman of Albright College [2016].

According to the study published in Psychology today, "most people value warmth and loyalty— the [in-built] qualities to a relationship—than the status, attractiveness or even passion of their partners— the [outward] qualities."

The study suggests that certain people want to be around people they perceive as high in status because it makes them feel better about themselves.

So, instead of promoting closeness, loyalty, trust and other admirable relationship traits, they rather do the following

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Trying to bend the other person to their standard

By pushing people to live up to the image you project as important, you are creating dissatisfaction and discontent because a person who knows that traits such as faithfulness and truthfulness are important will surely be looking to promote that in a relationship instead of any exterior trait.

Failure to build trust and loyalty

Of course, many people would agree that being loyal and faithful are important relationship behaviours.

However, by giving little attention to this in your relationship, and instead, paying undue attention to other superficial, unimportant things, you will fail to bond at a deeper level with your partner, and it'll be only a matter of time before the relationship fails.

Failure to see their imperfections

In the instance that one's ideals in a relationship aren't really ideal, there's a chance that the partner could help reshape them. However, if that partner refuses to admit that there is indeed a problem, helping them won't be so easy. And with time, the relationship is bound to end due to irreconcilable differences.