10 myths about sex

Every community has some taboos and beliefs about sex. These generally held beliefs are based on no fact or research and are not true in any way.

Here are 10 of them;

1. Only vaginal sex is sex

This is a tricky one. Sex is a social construct. Some people (mostly religious) people believe that they have to penetrate the vagina for it to be sex.

But there are other types of sex like oral sex (mouth to genital), anal sex, fingering and hand jobs, dry humping and so on.

The Mormons practice soaking where they feel penetration without movement is not sex. At the end of the day, it is self-deceit.

2. A woman needs penetrative sex to experience orgasm

Only a few women (25%) experience orgasm from penetrative sex. Most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation.

3. Petite women are ‘freaks’ in bed

This unfair stereotype leads to the over-sexualisation of petite women. This is an unrealistic fantasy. Everything depends on the individual.

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4. Masturbation is bad

This is true and false.

Masturbation has some health benefits; it decreases stress for women and makes their menstrual period less painful but for men, it might lead them to become accustomed to quickies and not last longer during sex.

If your religion has made you vow to celibacy, it doesn’t seem like the right thing to do.

For some, they are just not into masturbation, and that is okay too.

5. A bigger penis is better

Well, this is as false as false can be. Some very big penises might even cause trauma and wounds. What makes sex enjoyable is your partner and open communication.

6. Slim men have a bigger penis

No one is sure where this comes from or who started or why people believe it, but the only correlation would be that it might appear bigger because of how small they appear relative to it. The bottom line is penis size has nothing to do with weight.

7. Fat men have a smaller penis

This is not based on fact or science, people just seem to believe that.

8. Fat women are lazy in bed

This is a dig at her weight and probably that she would just stay in one place but vigour during sexual activity is person-specific and not based on any stereotype.

9. You cannot get pregnant when menstruating

Menstruation causes eggs to be released and thus unable to be fertilized by the sperm. For some, this is a have-all-the-sex-you-want card, but this is not the truth.

The sperm lives inside a woman’s body for five days after sex, and within that period, a new egg can be penetrated by sperm.

10. All virgins have hymens

Sigh, not even all women have hymens. Hymens are in different sizes plus, they do not cover the vagina completely. It is easy for the hymen to be broken by exercise or any rigorous activity.