People Describe What Makes Them Lose Romantic Interest Immediately

A Redditor recently posed the question : What makes you immediately lose romantic interest in someone? In less than 24 hours, the post has gone viral with over 34,000 upvotes and roughly 15,000 comments. Besides being super entertaining, the responses are also instructive when it comes to mastering the DOs and DON'Ts of dating.

The most upvoted comments tended to pertain to one-sided communication: When you come to them with a problem and they turn it into a conversation about them, as one user put it. (Hint: If they say, "I had a really bad day today," your response shouldn't be, "Mine was awful. My boss got mad at me and then the printer wasn't working and then...")

I've been trying to get better at this, one Redditor admitted. It was the only way I knew how to relate, but I realize I don't always need to relate. A solution isn't always needed... I just need to be supportive of their feelings and listen. (Interesting how he's bringing the Reddit conversation back to himself...)

Other communication-based romantic turn-offs included: When you realize they only listen to reply, not to understand.

Someone else added, Talking at you, not with you.

While its not good to always talk about yourself, at the same time, the opposite can be an issue. When they have seemingly no opinion, no voice, a user commented. When every answer is I don't care or I don't know. Like Jesus Christ I'm trying to find out what you like so that we can talk. Gimme something!

A lack of self-awareness was a consistent theme throughout the entire thread, making it the biggest and most off-putting deal breaker.

One person wrote that they lose romantic interest quickly when they don't know the difference between being funny and being obnoxious.

This really shouldnt be that hard to differentiate: If your date is genuinely laughing and smiling, youre golden. If theyre giving you an awkward chuckle or a blatant eye roll, you need to tone it down.

If they say the words 'I know Im an asshole/bitch,' wrote another Redditor. Like okay Ill take your word for it.

Other romance ruiners included calling all of your exes toxic or crazy. We all have one or two bad ones, but seriously its not ALWAYS that, someone wrote.

The takeaway from all this is to really listen to your partner, avoid being self-centered, be as self-aware as possible, and dont attempt to evoke a pity party.

Alright guys, this really doesn't sound that hard at all. We got this.