8 Signs He May Not Be The One!

olamide olarewaju

April 8, 2014 11:35 AM

If you spend more time wondering/asking questions over a relationship rather than enjoying the friendship/love then there might be issues!

In the early stages of a relationship, it is easier to ignore signs that the relationship is probably headed nowhere because its easy to be blindly attracted to each other that we don't see each other's real sides! If you want a long-term relationship, these signs help to decide he isn't the one/ not just there with you yet!

1. Something Feels Missing/ Just Doesn't Feel Right

There is this little voice in your head that tells you the relationship isn't right, something feels wrong but you just cant place your hands on it! (Never ignore the little voice in your head )

2. You Hold Too Many Different Values etc

You both can seem to agree about kids, expenses, way of life, future plans and so many things! You seem to come from worlds apart.

3. You Don't Come First In Each Other's Books

When you landed the big contract, you called your 'bestfriend' first and totally forgot about sharing the news with him and many more things, you just don't come first in each other's thoughts. You don't come first with him...EVER

3. He Doesn't Get along With Your Family/ Friends

Even if your partner doesn't love 'your people' he should at least be able to be civil around them but in situations where he doesn't seem to care/try to be as much as polite around them then he may not even care about what you have in the first place!

4. You Are A Different Person With Him

You are completely different-fake and all, especially where a guy for instance has a ridiculous standard of how you should/should not be! then its time to do a double take.

5. You Love Him... But You Are Not Friends/ Don't like Him

If you wouldn't want to be around a guy if you weren't dating then you shouldn't be dating! After the initial 'love dust' settles and you see the other person for who they are, that is the real test. So if you just dating him and not 'besties', you should reconsider the relationship!

6. “How I Wish He'd Just...”

If you keep pondering over that statement and get miserable thinking this every day, its probably a problem.

7. There Are Communication Issues

There is little or non-existent proper communication between you two and when there's an effort to talk its like war!

8. You Are Just Not Happy

Agreed a relationship is not all rosy but it should never make you unhappy or miserable, there's enough issues all around, being with a person doesn't necessarily solve it but should make it bearable (beautiful) but if you are constantly unhappy/miserable/frustrated then its not IT.

Of course these and more should be carefully considered if you want a long term relationship; but then girls join in the conversation, which ones did we leave out? Which way would you rather go with it? Join in lets share ideas.

olamide olarewaju