New studies show that breakups can be beneficial to both our mental and emotional health.
Breakups are often seen as a terrible thing, however though painful, it can also make you happier and stronger.
A new study titled “I’ll Never Be In A Relationship Like That Again”: Personal Growth Following Romantic Relationship Breakups, decided to study 92 undergraduate students who had recently experienced a breakup in order to see the effects.
Ty Tashiro and Patricia Frazier, the researchers, gathered data based on the answers gotten from psychological questionnaires about the students’ previous relationships and how they were coping with their breakup.
They also went a step further by asking these students if they had noticed any positive changes in their lives after the split.
According to Tashiro, the lead author of the study, the findings show that:
"The first finding of interest was that every single participant listed some positive life changes as a result of their breakup and there were on average five positive changes reported following these breakups. Some examples of the positive changes included feeling more confident, independent, or closer to their friends or family following the breakup."
He also adds:
"I think that a breakup can make some people stronger… It’s interesting people report that losing a relationship is felt as physical pain as well as emotional pain. One of our fundamental motives as humans is to form close, stable bonds with other people."
"So, when we lose one of our most critical relationships, there’s a natural tendency to feel deeply distressed. It’s your mind’s way of saying ‘You sure about this?’ Of course, sometimes you are sure and the best thing is to stay away from the ex-partner, but it’s easier said than done."
This study clearly proves that what does not kill you makes you stronger and in the long run, you will be stronger and happier both mentally and emotionally.
What do you think about this study?