Hi Sarah,

My partner and I have always had great sex and it's regular. But just last year, with the crazy-busy schedules we have, we’re having a hard time getting it on like we used to. When we have sex it's great, but we never seem to be wanting it at the same time.

But recently I've been getting dry. It doesn’t happen until my boyfriend puts a condom on. He never thought we needed lube, but it’s making sex uncomfortable and hard to enjoy. Please, what can I do?

Dear anonymous,

Different schedules can definitely put a damper on your sex life, and it happens to more couples than you think. Luckily, there’s a pretty easy fix for that.

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While scheduling sex doesn’t sound passionate, it’s the perfect way to ensure you both know what’s coming and gives you a chance to psych yourself up! Exchange some erotic texts throughout the day, put on something that makes you feel sexy, and get ready to do what you guys are so great at: having amazing sex.

And as for the dryness, you aren’t alone there either. This happens to so many women for a variety of reasons—and it doesn’t mean you aren’t getting turned on or there’s anything wrong with you.

Hormones, that time of the month, and even what you eat can affect the climate down there. If you want to get over the dryness, here are a few tips that can help you out:

Spend more time on you. Make foreplay a priority. Spend more time on you and your pleasure so you’re at the peak of your arousal, and when he goes to put the condom on, keep touching yourself to ensure you stay that way.

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Also, not all condoms are created equal. Latex can sometimes dry you out, which would explain the reaction you’ve been having when your boyfriend puts on a condom. Switch up your condom choice and try a non-latex brand.

Lubing up too really works wonders. Lube is an amazing little invention that makes all forms of sex more comfortable. Try these tips and watch that dryness leave.