A lot of guys make sex mistakes in bed, and the most common difficulties they face when doing it with their partners is not technique or how to’s, but their own opinions and misconceptions about making love from a woman’s point of view.

So, start putting yourself in her shoes and you’ll quit making errors and start giving her an earth-shattering orgasm. Below are 3 mistakes men make in bed.

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1. Assuming what worked for one woman will work for another

Guys are notorious for thinking that if they did a great job pleasuring one woman that the same exact method will work on another woman. They often will believe that because the first woman had a mind-blowing orgasm, that he suddenly decoded how women work and can give every woman an orgasm if he simply just repeats what he did the first time on any other woman he ends up doing it with. The reality is that no two women like the exact same things and discovering what a new lover like is part of the beauty of having a new sexual relationship.

2. You forget the lube

Sadly, one of the biggest sex mistakes that guys make is forgetting to use a good water based lube. A lot of guys think that if he just gets her turned on enough that she’ll get wet – and of course, the wetter she gets, the more he turned her on, right? Not exactly. A woman could be very turned on and not have very much vaginal lubrication at all, or vice versa. If she’s not slick enough, penetration is going to be extremely uncomfortable or even painful for her, and she definitely won’t enjoy it or have any chance at reaching orgasm.

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3. Undervaluing the power of the clitoris

A man’s anatomy and how he uses it for sex is simple, and therefore, he assumes a woman’s anatomy must respond the same way his does. It feels good to him when he puts his penis in her vagina, so it must feel good to her to have his penis in her vagina. The harder he thrusts, the closer he gets to orgasm, so the same must be true for her. This, of course, is pretty much the opposite of how a woman’s anatomy really works and one of the more common but frustrating sex mistakes for women to have to deal with. Many women can’t climax at all from vaginal penetration alone and the quickest way to bring a woman to orgasm is to stimulate her clitoris.

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