Pastor Adeboye got it right and wrong in his sermon about social media marriages.
These were the words of the household famous man of God Pastor E.A Adeboye at the April 2017 Thanksgiving Service.
The main topic of the sermon was on marriage- a topic that makes Nigerians go crazy. People screamed 'hallelujah' as the man of God prayed for those waiting on the Lord for a spouse.
Pastor Adeboye talked about social media marriages early into his sermon and the quoted line above went viral. Many people have reacted to his statement without listening to the sermon. There is always the danger of ripping a line out of context. It gets lost in translation.
What the soft-spoken Pastor was saying in that sermon was that if your marriage is not based on God it will likely crumble. Every Pastor in the land says this and if you are a Christian it makes sense to have a godly marriage.
Also, Pastor E.A Adeboye hammered that intending couples should know themselves extensively before getting married. This is a very strong point. There are too many people who rush into marriage due to societal pressure only to find out they made a big mistake. Many people in relationships hide their true selves when they are dating but after the wedding reception they rip off their masks.
At the end of the day, there are plenty husbands and wives who shed tears in dark corners because they married the wrong person. Marriage is a big deal. It is one of the biggest decisions a human being is going to make in his life. Unfortunately, people don't take time out to know who they are marrying before saying 'I do'. It's for the glamour and to be like your friend who just got married.
On the flip side, Pastor E.A Adeboye should also know that it is very possible to find true love on social media. There are too many stories of successful marriages that started off on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter.
I sense Pastor Adeboye has a scepticism towards social media. This is understandable considering his age. He is 75 years old. I doubt there are too many 75-year-old people out there who care about social media. You can find your husband/wife on social media as long as you open your eye.
Also, marrying an usher, a member of the choir or someone in the governing council of a church doesn't guarantee a happy or successful marriage. There are many marriages which started from the church and have crashed.
Facebook or church doesn't ensure marital success. They are just places where you meet and interact with people. How you end up with your spouse is left up to you.