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Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers want Modesty to confess to his wife

49% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters say Modesty should confess to his wife on his involvement with Lovina and seek for her forgiveness.

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This depressed man needs advice fast play

This depressed man needs advice fast

(Healthy Black Men)

Modesty, a married young man thought he was enjoying the best of both worlds when he decided to have an affair with a demanding sugar mummy.

But now, Lovina is bent on breaking his marriage so that he could be with her alone and has even threatened to harm his wife and young child.

Read his story here:

"My name is Modesty, a 32-year-old man. I have been married to Ebiye for the past three years and we have a one-year-old son but my marriage is under threat right now.

I know what I did was wrong but I just thought I was catching fun, not knowing that I was digging my grave and it is now causing me untold problems.

I met Lovina, a 48-year-old woman early last year after some friends lured me into the relationship with the promise that dating a sugar mummy would not only swell my pocket but also give me untold opportunities and connections.

Initially, I did not want to fall into the temptation but when I realized that most of my friends, even the married ones were into it, I decided to give it a trial, after all, I reasoned, there was nothing to lose.

I was introduced to Lovina at a party organized by some society women and when I saw some of them, even those we read about in the media as society big babes, I was shocked at the degradation that has permeated our society.

Some of them were married women and people held in high esteem in the society but they were all there with their sugar boys while some came to look for new catches.

Lovina came with a complete package and promised me heaven and earth – money, connections, contacts, and contracts – if I am good to her.

Her definition of being good was for me to always be available whenever she needed me and to satisfy her in bed always, and never to have another woman, apart from my wife.

I did not have a problem with that and for about six months, it was all rosy as I had the best of her world.

Lovina bought me a new car and gave me money that I used to move my family to a duplex. When my wife questioned where I suddenly got so much money, I gave her so many stories that she got confused and kept shut.

But barely one year into the relationship with Lovina, the scales have been lifted from my eyes and she is threatening to bring my world crumbling.

It started when she began demanding more and more of my time and when I reminded her that I was still a married man and that my family needs me as well, Lovina told me I would have to divorce my wife and move in with her.

I told her that was impossible but she countered by threatening that she would make my wife and son disappear without a trace if I refuse to divorce her.

She has also promised to make my live a living hell both physically and spiritually and knowing that most of these women are very diabolical, I fear for my life and that of my family.

I know what Lovina is capable of and she has given an ultimatum that would expire at the end of this month.

Please, I need advice on how to get myself out of this mess I put myself into.


What would you do if a sugar mummy is threatening your marriage?

How Nigeria voted:

I will report her to the police - 18%

I will tackle her squarely - 6%

I will confess to my wife what I did - 49%

 I will take her case to my pastor - 4%

I will engage the help of a native doctor to tackle her - 20%

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