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Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers want Jesse to put his meddlesome mother in check

37% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters say Jesse should be a man and make his mother know that he is married and can run his home.

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The worried woman needs some advice

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Mide and Jesse have been married for five years but in all those years, she has not had a peaceful home as her mother-in-law believes she has the right to run their home.

To worsen the problem is the fact that Jesse is still tied to his mother's apron strings and cannot act on his own without taking permission from her.

He has even told Mide that she is free to leave if she can't live with the situation.

Read her story here:

"My name is Mide, a 28-year-old married woman with two adorable children. I have been married for five years now but I have been living in regret due to my mother-in-law's attitude.

I did not date my husband, Jesse, for long because he was under pressure by his mother to get married as the only child and she kept hammering that she wanted to carry her grandchildren before she died.

But one thing I noticed while we were dating was the fact that Jesse still lived with his mother who seemed not to be in a hurry to let him live his life.

He was always quick to run to her if he needed to make any decision and like I often teased him, he took permission from her to sleep with me.

He kept assuring me that when we get married, his mother's influence on him would naturally peter out since she would then know that he has come of age but after five years, the influence is getting stronger as Jesse is still tied to his mother's apron strings.

My mother-in-law has made life unbearable for me, trying to impose her will on whatever I do, how I train my children and that I must take permission from her before I prepare any meal.

Initially, I jut thought she was protecting the bond that exists between her and her son, afraid that another woman would have absolute control over him but this time, the control is becoming so much that I feel choked up.

In recent times, she has started to blame me for every imaginable thing in this world. If her son is sick, my mother-in-law will blame me; if he has a bad day at work, she would take it out on my nagging.

Jesse reports to her and tells her what he does not even tell me and when I complain, he would tell me that he has one mother and can get another wife if I leave him.

I am no more comfortable with this marriage especially as my husband seems to take sides with his mother over his own wife and children.


The teaser for the day was:

What do you think should be done in a scenario like this?

How Nigeria voted:

Jesse should be a man and put his mother in check - 37%

Mide should continue to endure with her mother-in-law - 11%

The mother-in-law should allow her son to run his home in peace - 29%

Mide should threaten to divorce Jesse so he can sit up - 24%

How would you vote here?

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