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Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers say James should divorce Benita immediately

63% of Pulse Nigeria Poll have advised James to divorce his cheating wife immediately so she would not put him in more trouble.

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A really sad man needs advice

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James, a 50-year-old man succumbed to pressure from his family to remarry after the death of his first wife.

He then got married to Benita, a woman twice his age, not knowing that he was getting himself into serious trouble because as it turned out, Benita has been sleeping around with different men.

Read his story here:

"My name is James, a 50-year-old man. I am not a happy man at the moment because my wife has been sleeping around with different men and she has not even hidden the fact that she is cheating on me.

I got married to Benita, a 28-year-old woman after I lost my wife and mother of my three children to breast cancer eight years ago and after staying alone for five years, my family put pressure on me to get married to another woman who would take care of my children.

Benita was actually introduced to me by my younger sister and though we did not date for long, she did not give me any cause for concern. She found a way of making my children like her so much that they were on my neck to get married to her.

But shortly after we got married, I got to realize that she was still seeing her former boyfriend and sneaked out of my house to sleep with him.

I got to know when I stumbled on a text message the man sent to her, telling her how much he enjoyed the sex they had and how much he missed her. he went on to describe what she did to him the last time they were together and how much he was looking forward to their next time together.

When I confronted her, she apologized and begged for forgiveness, promising never to cheat on me again. But instead of changing like she promised, she has been more discreet though I always find out.

Because of the nature of my business which takes me out of Lagos for many weeks, my wife has always had a field day sleeping around with different men.

At one time, I decided to get someone to monitor her movements and the reports I got were so devastating. The guy reported that my wife would go out and spend nights in different hotels with different men whenever I was out of town, often telling my children she had a night vigil or a party to attend.

Even my children have told me several times how their stepmother sneaks out of the house and spends weekends outside whenever I was traveled.

I am fed up of this marriage but my problem is that I do not want people to think I cannot keep a wife. Many have blamed me for giving my wife so much freedom.

I don't know what to do.


The teaser for the day was:

What would you advise James to do in this situation?

How Nigeria voted:

He should divorce Benita immediately - 63%

He should talk to her so she could change - 18%

He should take her on his trips whenever he travels - 6%

He should just endure the marriage - 12%

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