Readers say Fadekemi should leave her church

She is supposed to get married Damola and when she introduced him to the pastor, all hell broke loose as he not only warned her to stay away from her fiance but also threatened to place a curse on her if she keeps refusing him.

Read her story here:

“My name is Fadekemi, a 26-year-old born again Christian lady. I gave my life to Christ when I was 22 and I had made a vow to God that I would abstain from sex until I get married.

And this is a vow I have been keeping all along and I have even lost some suitors who insisted on sleeping with me before we get married.

But in the past one year, my pastor has been making life difficult for me all because he wants to sleep with me.

After I became a born again Christian, I decided to dedicate my life to God and immerse myself in his work. I signed up in many departments in the church and in no time, I was the star in the church with the GO always using me as an example of how a Christian should be.

I was in the choir, ushering department, welfare, prayer group and other departments in the church. I did not do all of these to get any attention but I was driven by my zeal to serve God and I did them without thinking about any gain.

But now, my pastor, a man I respect so much and could have defended anywhere, is trying to make me fall into temptation.

It all began when I took Damola whom I had been dating to introduce to him. Damola is also a Christian and had agreed to my no sex before marriage condition and proposed to me.

But after the introduction, my pastor started acting in a very funny way. He first told me that the holy spirit told him that Damola was not the right man for me and that I should break off the engagement even though our parents were aware.

He then started being harsh on me, something he had never done before and snapped at me at the slightest mistake. There was a day he berated and insulted me in front of other choir members during a practice and even when I went to his office to ask if I had done anything to annoy him, he shouted at me and ordered me to leave his office.

I was so worried and tried to get him to tell me what my offence was and that was when he told me that he was angry that I had the guts to bring a man to introduce to him. I was aghast at his words and when I enquired why it was so, he told me that he was in love with me and does not want any other man near.

I practically ran out of his office and tried to stay away from him but it has not been possible because I have to relate with him every other day.

He has made it clear that if he does not have sex with me, he will make sure I do not get married to Damola or any other man for that matter.

He even threatened to place a curse on me if I refuse to sleep with him.

I am really confused because I dread what his curse could do to me. I have never been able to tell anyone of what I am going through but I am really afraid for my life.

Fadekemi.”

The teaser for the day was:

What would you advise Fadekemi to do in this situation?

How Nigeria voted:

She should leave the church immediately - 54%

She should never succumb to the pastor’s blackmail - 10%

She should report the sexual harassment to the church elders - 16%

She should record their confessions and take it to the police - 21%

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