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Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers think Ben should go for a medical treatment for his sexual problems

63% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters are of the view that Ben should go for a medical treatment to find out the cause and get a cure for his problems.

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After five years in marriage, Blessing is no longer enjoying the union because her husband, Ben, suddenly developed sexual problems which have affected their sex life.

But Ben has refused to seek medical help, insisting there is nothing with him even when he knows he is not living up to expectation as a married man.

Read Blessing's letter here:

"My name is Blessing and I have been married for five years I must be sincere to say that the marriage is heading for the rocks because of my husband, Benjamin, is no more the man I used to know.

I am 30-years-old and he is 38 but his sex drive has hit a bottom rock and I don't know if I can stand it any longer. I am still sexually active but Ben is now more of a one-minute man who is not only weak in bed but he does not want to seek any help from doctors.

When we were dating, our sex life was one of the things that made me accept to marry him. For one, do not think I am a sex addict but the truth be told, every woman wants a sexually active man and back then, Ben could not seem to get enough.

Even in the first two years of our marriage, the sex was still great but after our first child, getting into the third and fourth year, it dwindled, so much that I would be lucky to get it once a week. From there, it was a tug of war to even get sex once a month, with Ben giving me one excuse or the other.

I could have understood with the work pressure and all, but anytime he agreed to have sex, he would not be able to hold an erection for more than two minutes. It will take me an eternity to get his penis to get erect and when it does, it will go down immediately, even before he enters me.

And for the next month or two, it would just fail to get up. I have cajoled, begged and fought my husband to get medical help but he will have none of that. He keeps claiming that there is nothing wrong with him.

In fact, the last time I brought up the issue, it caused a serious fight and he told me I could leave his house if I am not satisfied with his sexual performance.

It will shock you to know that in the past two years, we had not made love more than three times and this is not exaggerating.

I do feel for him because he was not like this when we got married but I cannot continue like this.

What do I do?


The teaser for the day was:

What would you advise Blessing and Ben to do in this situation?

How Nigeria voted:

Ben should seek medical treatment fast - 63%

Ben should seek spiritual help as this is an attack - 7%

Blessing should just endure everything - 5%

Blessing should get a sex partner who would satisfy her - 18%

Blessing should divorce Ben instead of committing adultery - 7%

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