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Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers says a woman who is pregnant for another man should confess to her husband

50% of Pulse Nigeria Poll readers say a married woman who got pregnant for another man whould better confess to her husband.

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A reader, Esther, a married woman, is a dilemma after she got pregnant for her boyfriend after years of marriage without a child. It was the pressure she was being put in by her husband's family that drove her into the arms of Andy who finally got her pregnant.

She is in a quandary whether to tell the man who got her pregnant or to keep quiet and give the child to her husband so she could have peace in her home.

Read her letter here:

"My name is Esther and I have been married for six years without a fruit of the womb. My husband, Stanley, and I have done everything for me to get pregnant all to no avail. We have tried all forms of medicines, fertility drugs, prayer houses and local herbs with no result.

Being an only son, his family has been on our necks to give them grand children but all efforts have been in vain. It got so much that his mother especially, started insinuating that I could be the one with the problem but I know I am not the problem because before I met Stanley, I had got pregnant about two times for my ex-boyfriend, so it had nothing to do with me.

On the other hand, several tests we have carried out showed that there is nothing wrong with us with the doctors advising that we should be patient, that we would have our own child with time. But my mother-in-law has not been in anyway patient as she has made plans to get my husband a new wife from their village.

My husband too seems to be in line with the plans from his family and has alienated me as if I am the one who has the problem of giving birth.

This pain was what drove me into the hands of Andy, who was introduced to me by a close friend, Nkechi. At the initial stage, Andy was just a friend whom I confided in but as the pains I have been living with escalated, I found myself more and more dependent on him.

And before I knew what happened, we began sleeping together. For me, it was just an avenue to relieve myself of the pains I was going through but it went on for so long that I actually looked forward to sleeping with Andy, though I did not attach anything to it.

Then I found out that I had missed my period for two months. I went for a test and it turned out that I was pregnant. I knew immediately that Andy was the father of the baby but I can't possibly tell him. At the moment, I dread letting Stanley know I am pregnant for fear he could suspect me because in the past few months, we have not made love regularly.

What do you think I should do in this dilemma?


The teaser for the day was:

What should a married woman who is pregnant for her boyfriend do?

How Nigeria voted:

She should confess to her husband - 50%

She should abort the baby - 11%

She should keep the baby a secret from both men - 14%

She should tell the father of the baby - 27%

How would you vote here?

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