Readers say they would never take back a spouse who cheated on them

A Pulse reader, Ikechukwu, whose wife, Nneka, cheated on him with their pastor, sent in this heart rending letter which was put up for other readers to give him some pieces of advice. At the last count, a whopping 53% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters said they would forgive the culprit but that the marriage would not continue, while 39% say they will forgive wholeheartedly.

Read the letter here:

"My name is Ikechukwu and what I have to share with your readers has been eating at my soul and if I don't get a reliable solution, it could lead to my death.

I got married to my wife, Nneka four years ago and we have a son whom I love dearly. Before I got married, I was doing well in my business but due to the economic situation in the country, things became tough for me and I had to close down my business and has been hustling since last year to make ends meet for my family.

That was when a friend introduced me to a pastor with the assurance that if the man prayed for me, things would go back to normal. I started attending the man's church and within a short while, I made sure my family attended the church too. We became so dedicated that we became a reference point.

I was made an elder in the church while Nneka was made the women fellowship leader and she became so close to the pastor, so much that she was free to visit his house at anytime and help him in household chores.

Little did I know that my wife and the pastor had started an affair until his secretary leaked the secret to me. At first, I would not believe that until the lady started giving me updates on their dalliances. On the day I caught her red handed, the secretary had called me to go to a hotel in town, that my wife who had told me she was going for evangelism with the pastor were lodged there.

I went to the hotel out of curiosity and true to what the lady said, I with our pastor in the same room almost nude. It was apparent they had had sex all through the night because they were still locked in each other's arms when I knocked on the door pretending to be one of the hotel's cleaner.

They were both shocked to see me but after I had seen them, I just closed the door and went out. Back home, I called her mother and brother and told them everything, telling them that Nneka should not come back to my house or I would kill her.

It has been six months now and she has been begging me, sending emissaries to talk to me to forgive her and take her back, at least for the sake of our son.

I want to ask your readers to advice me. Should I forgive her and take her back? Mind you, I am still hurting from her betrayal.

Ikechukwu."

The teaser for the day was:

Would you forgive a spouse you caught sleeping with a secret lover?

How Nigeria voted:

39% - I will forgive him/her

8% - I will never forgive him or her

53% - I will forgive him/her but the marriage would not continue

How would you vote?