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Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers say they will forgive a spouse who hid a love child

38% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters are all in agreement that they would forgive a spouse who hid a love child six years into marriage.

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A reader, Anthony, made a shocking discovery when he found out that his wife of six years actually had a child outside wedlock and did not tell him, even as the boy lived with the family.

Read his letter:

"My name is Anthony and I have been married for six years to a woman I thought was my world until I made a shocking discovery some months ago that has effectively shattered the trust and love I had for my wife, Blessing.

This has also gone to affirm the fact that no matter how long you know a woman, you may not fully get to understand her. Before we got married, Blessing and I had dated for two years and I dare say those years were that of bliss because she was all a man would want in a woman.

I had noticed that during the time we dated, there was a young boy of about four who was mostly with her and she dotted on the child. When I asked her who the boy was, Blessing told me he was her late sister's son and that since the sister died, she had been taking care of the child.

Being that loves children, I became attached to the boy and even when we got married, I allowed the boy to stay with us and even out two children saw him as their brother.

So you can imagine my shock when a strange man came to my house to claim that he is the father of the boy and that Blessing was his mother.

At first, I did not believe the man and called Blessing who had gone to her office to hurry back home. When she came, she was equally surprised to see the man.

When I told her what the man said, she broke down and confessed that she was actually the boy's mother and was afraid I would leave her if she had told me.

It is not as much as her having a child before we met that bothers me because I would still have married her but hiding the fact from me for eight years.

She has begged me to forgive her but even though I have forgiven her, I will never trust her again and that can be dangerous for the marriage.

My mother wants me to send her packing but my father has warned me from taking such a step.

What do I do now?


The teaser for the day was:

Would you divorce your spouse of eight years if you realised he/she had a child outside wedlock without telling you?

How Nigeria voted:

37% - Yes, I will divorce him/her as there will be no more trust

38% - No, I will forgive him/her knowing everyone has a past

23% - I will forgive him/her but I will never trust again

How would you vote here?

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