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Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers say it is better to leave vengeance to God

How would you console a man who spent his hard earned money to sponsor a woman in school only for her to dump him?

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A sad black man


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A reader, Magnus, is very downcast at the moment after a lady he sponsored through university with the hope of getting married to her after graduation, later dumped him because he is illiterate.

The most annoying thing is that all he did for her and her family has been forgotten as the family even told him to calculate all he spent on Chinwe so her new husband who is based abroad can pay him back.

Read his story here:

"My name is Magnus, a 48-year-old very bitter man because a girl I did everything for, sent to school and even catered for her family needs has turned round to pay me in the worst coin anyone can ever imagine.

I came to Lagos after my primary school in my hometown to serve as an apprentice to a kinsman. After serving for seven years, I gained my freedom and my boss settled me fully and I set out on my spare parts business.

Over the years, I built up my business to be a success and I have been able to expand my coast into importation and being a distributor for big companies outside the country. Because of my lack of education, I vowed never to marry an illiterate and to make sure that my children acquire quality education.

It was this resolve that made me agree to send Chinwe to school with the understanding that we would get married once she was through. Chinwe is from my village and it was actually my parents that chose her for me, having watched her grow to be a very obedient and homely girl.

I actually wanted her to go to school in my house but her family begged me to allow her complete her education first before the marriage.

We did the wine carrying after she gained admission into a university and I made sure she went to school like a princess. I bought a car for her, rented a two-bedroom apartment for her and furnished it to taste.

I visited her once in a while and made sure she did not lack anything. I also brought her younger brother to learn my trade, gave her parents money to start a small business. But little did I know that I was polishing her up for another man.

Chinwe began showing her true colours in her final year in the university when she began rejecting my calls, giving one excuse or the other why I should not visit her in school and on her graduation, she told me I should not bother coming.

But the last straw that broke the camel's back was when I learnt from one of her close friends that she had concluded plans to travel out to meet her fiancé who lives in Europe. Ijeoma was Chinwe's best friend but I still doubted her story, so I travelled home to find out the truth and lo and behold, I was told that Chinwe had already travelled out of the country.

When I confronted her parents, her elder brother told me plainly that Chinwe told them I was an illiterate and a local man and she could not marry me. They also told me that her new husband has promised to refund all that I expended on her.

I am devastated but though my family and friends say I should leave everything in God's hands, I have vowed to make sure Chinwe, her so called husband and her family suffer for this injustice.


The teaser for the day was:

What would you do if a girl you sponsored through university dumps you for another man?

How Nigeria voted:

She will have to pay all I spent on her - 10%

I will make sure she does not live to marry another man - 11%

I will leave her for God to judge - 80%

How would you vote here?

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